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Fictional crushes are fine if you're a teenager. But once you are an adult, they become awful. As an adult, I have no experience with dating, barely any friends, and my brain still tries to comfort me with "fictional crushes." I cannot stand it. Yet I don't want to say anything because my parents laugh at this, and make fun of me. It's a ridiculous cycle.
Is there any way to stop these dumb thoughts? It's weird because the only times I have these "crushes" is when I feel extremely lonely.
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man, i just miss that feeling of having a crush on somebody....
You mean crushes on celebrities?
ReplyTry dating apps so that you can go on real dates.
ReplyThanks for the suggestion. But aren't those usually filled with folks who are out of area or are attempting to exploit the system?
ReplyFirst, you have to acknowledge these thoughts and try to understand what kind of comfort does it give. In relation to feelings, or love and dating, you have to also think what it is you want to get out of it.
I understand why you want to fight these thoughts, but you have to understand yourself first. Do you want to stop these thoughts because YOU find it dumb? Or because others do? There's nothing wrong with appreciating fictional characters, because sometimes they represent the kind of love we are seeking. Ask yourself: What is it that you are actually seeking?
Replyloneliness is the problem. it doesn't necessarily have to do with romantic relationships but do you feel connected to the people around you?? like your friends, family, etc? do you surround yourself with people who enjoy your company and appreciate you? that can go a long way and hopefully alleviate some of what you are attempting to cover up with unattainable crushes (which there is nothing wrong with, just don't let it take over your life)
ReplyThank you. I think it is part of the problem. People I know appreciate me, just don't have many people I see regularly.
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