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It's happened several times already. The scenario where someone starts a conversation with me and I follow along, talking amiably with them, whether it's a stranger, an acquaintance, a friend, or a family member, and as I'm talking they make... a face. It's a weird kind of face, it's not a bored or angry look, it just looks like... annoyance mixed with a mocking smile. I've come to classify this expression as the "shut up already"/" I don't care about what you're saying" look. It's always the same thing: someone talks to me, I reply, we start having a conversation, and at some point, they throw me that look.
I would understand if it's because I've been taking over the conversation and talking too much. But I don't talk a lot, it's actually a complaint I receive often, and yet when I'm talking with someone and we're both taking turns of equal time, and I think the conversation is going well, they throw me that look.
Except it's never actually at me. They tend to throw that look to whoever I have next to me or next to them. But it's always about me.
I don't know where in the conversation I messed it up, I don't know if after 5 sentences a conversation should just stop, I don't know what I'm doing wrong in order to receive this look from the people around me.
Every time it happens, I tell myself that the conversation won't go beyond that point, I'm done talking to that person and if they talk to me again I'll just nod along, just so they don't have to feel annoyed by me talking. It makes me feel so bad I want to shut my mouth forever and never open it again, never say another word, never follow anyone's conversation.
It's happened so many times, and every time I tell myself the same thing, but when it passes and I've moved on from the wave of self-deprecation that it brings, I tell myself "maybe it was actually nothing, maybe it was just THAT person, it doesn't mean it will happen with everyone else", and then it happens again. I hate it.
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Sometimes people have to be told, ‘hey, I need you to listen’ or whatever because they’re anxious to get out what they’re saying or excited. People tell me this quite a bit and I simply shut up and listen because I wasn’t letting them speak and neither of us has hard feelings like you’re describing. I know the person respects me, they know I respect them and we even laugh at it sometimes. Also, if you’re talking with people from different ethnic backgrounds they tend to talk in chaotic circles and jump all over, hitting something on different areas and going back to previous topics like a storm of emotions. If you are particular with your syntax and give and take appropriate guidelines etc., you’re going to have problems getting along with and following certain races’ convos. or trying to meet and talk with them in public. There are entire studies done on these kinds of differences, syntax in communication, non-verbal behaviors of races and even various brackets of income have different styles of communication.
ReplyThere could be many reasons. You could ask next time they give you that look
Replyask..there could be some other reason
Replymaybe is just your mind, its weird that all the people ypu talks with makes that face. the next time you have a conversation with a close friend or someone you feelconfortable with or whatever you can ask them why they do that face
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