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I had a mentor for many years who became a close friend. She and I have been through so much and confide in each other with everything. However we had a fallout when I got into a relationship with my current partner. She felt that because I had brought a significant other in my life it was going to affect our business together because now my attention and investment is going to be divided. When we proceeded to sign contracts and settle legal matters because she felt I was incompetent, she always had something personal to say. She proceeded to always have a personal opinion about me, my partner and about our business. She states that she was going to help me carry the business but because of my "decision" to leave because of my relationship investment she has to carry everything on her own. First of all, it was only a matter of time that we were going to separate the business because she expressed that she wanted to refocus on her family and husband because we've been doing business for so long together already. In my opinion, I decided to leave and sign off because one way or another this separation was going to come, it's just that it came earlier than expected. She does have an influential power over me because she is 10 years older and has been like a second mother to me since she raised me when I ran away from home.
So recently I got pregnant and decided to get an abortion. She had pulled this information out of me as I was emotional and not in a good mental state of mind when we spoke. She proceeded to project herself and her experiences on me because she also accidentally got pregnant when she was my age. She proceeded to tell me and my partner that we are irresponsible and are not taking accountability for our actions because we made a baby so we should pay the price for it. I did not agree with her words. Me and my partner are not in a financially stable place to provide for a child and it is unfair to bring a child to the world if you cannot provide and do not have a home prepared to welcome them. My partner and I believe that having a stable income, home and being able to provide everything the child needs is priority. It would be unfair to the child and we would not want the child to struggle in poverty with us. We want to raise a healthy provided child when we are ready. That is how we want to live our life! We are struggling together as is already living together. Bringing in a child to the world will only further stress myself, my family, my career, also my partner and his life as well. How can she tell me to relax and don't stress when she is the one constantly harassing and telling people that I am pregnant? She ended calling her own sister when she found out that I was pregnant and then during that conversation, her brother also eavesdropped on the conversation she was having telling her sister. So now a total of 3 people know my personal information that was never to be shared. Then she had the audacity to call "MY" sister behind my back to tell her that I was pregnant and continued to rant to my sister that I'm irresponsible not taking accountability for "MY" child in "MY" stomach by having an abortion.
I am angry, upset, irritated, and tired of dealing with her bullshit. She feels so entitled to make decisions, choices and likes to influence everyone to believe she is the "right" person with the correct morals and values. If she is a person of God and Faith like she claims to be, then why is she going around and sharing personal information that does not affect her quality of life? I thought the teachings of God was not to judge but to listen, help and support anyone in their decisions whether or not you agree or disagree with it. "Let he who is without sin cast the first rock" People who truly live by these teachings of God do not need to influence and gather people onto their side to prove they're so right. It is ridiculous and I have grown weary of her constant nags, manipulative ways and outright disgusting "righteous" acts of service. She thinks she's doing me a favor behind my back by sharing my personal information, but really all she's doing is creating more damage to me and I am about had it with her bullshit. I'm so fucking done with her.
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This mentor has no right to dictate to you what you should and shouldn't do. However, my opinion is that you had a person growing in your womb which is definitely not your stomach as food goes into your stomach. Anyway this person has every right to live their life so you could have given birth and then had this tiny person adopted. A childless couple would have had a child and the person would be able to have the life they were meant to. I hope you keep this in mind if you have unprotected sex, fall pregnant again, and can't afford to raise a child.
Anyway, tell this mentor to get right away from you and to keep away.
ReplyYou have sex but you don't know basic biology. Your stomach and your womb are two different areas of the body.
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