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I am so tired of being conditioned to avoid things or prepare for scenarios because some (SOME) cis men like to molest people. It's fucking sick and people shouldn't have to deal with being assaulted or having to fear being assaulted because someone felt entitled to it- more often than not, cis men (not exclusively of course, but seemingly the majority). I hate that throughout my upbringing I've had to be worried about these things my brother hasn't, and I hate how normalised it is with parents being far less willing to let their daughters/AFAB children go out without supervision. Gods forbid! "That school renowned for having drunken lads who assault other students will be somewhere in the vicinity of so-and-so gathering or festival, so no, you can't go." Heck, it could just be any 'all-boys' school and suddenly every decision has to be thought about twice- and it's clear why parents get so worried, considering the stories you hear and the things that do actually happen.
It comes to affect so much of what you do- crossing the road when you see a man when it's dark, having to avoid certain roads or certain areas on the way home because an assault took place recently there, having to constantly make sure you aren't being followed, having to ignore a group of catcallers because if you hurt their egos they may just beat you up. Then, when assault does happen, it's always seen as the victim's fault for "not dressing modestly enough" or "not being careful enough". It's frustrating knowing I will never be able to interact with other guys the way cis guys do because I'll always have this deep instilled fear of assault, and it's also frustrating that this fear is something AFAB people and trans women (or other gender-diverse folk who people don't percieve as cis men) have to deal with constantly- yet schools are out here telling 11-year-old kids that if they don't wear leggings in class before a sports match they'll be distracting the male teachers.
When are we going to start legitimately holding assaulters accountable? I get a lot of people are doing their best, and that's amazing and I'm really thankful people are doing their best to stop things like this from happening. It's just that it's fucking embarassing that as a society are still having to instil fear into kids at a young age of assault because of the sheer volume of cases that people actually have to deal with, and the fact that this is a global problem makes it even worse. In my native country, in 2018, NCRB data revealed that 1 r*pe was reported every 15 minutes, and 8 men allegedly gang-r*ped a goat to death. A goat. Not one person can physically excuse this with "the goat wasn't dressed modestly enough", okay? No- this is not something we should have to be conditioned to fear- it's fucking horrendous and shouldn't be happening at all. And this is just 1 country- every country still is messed-up in some way like this and some use the excuse "hey atleast we aren't xyz country" to not deal with their problems. I hate this world so much sometimes. Anyways, rant over. I hope anyone who reads this has a good day and doesn't assault anyone ever.
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yeah society is f*cked up man. here's a hug <3 and i hope we can live in a better world someday. if i ever have/raise kids i'm gonna make sure they are respectful of everyone. some people aren't fit to be parents. You can tell if certain people in my grade were raised by parents who were prepared to have kids vs if they were raised by parents who weren't. i think the problem is that people need to realize how big of a deal raising a child is. do your research, people. PSA make sure you're not having kids for selfish reasons. my house has at least hundreds of parenting magazines and books, and of course nobody is perfect but i think my parents actually did okay raising my siblings and i. yeah we arent perfect either, mental issues and such okay but at least we are respectful and not rude or mean to others. idk im rambling now but yeah society is rlly messed up.
ReplyYeah! Honestly my parents did pretty well as well I think, particularly considering they don't seem to like each other all that much. Gods it's just so concerning and sad that this is something we worry about. I'm supposed to go to this gathering with kids from a school kind-of infamous for getting drunk and assaulting people and while my mother still thinks I should go, I'm a bit terrified, honestly. It's so hard trusting "not all men" or whatever sometimes and I hate thinking like this even though these are a demographic I'm supposed to and very much want to fit in with.
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