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I'm a 22 year old woman. I do still live with my parents and sister and I don't really have an issue with it. But what bothers me a lot is that they force me to eat something although I clearly said to them I don't want to as if I was still a kid and wouldn't know what I want.
They ask me if I want something (like a little sweet or cake or smth) that they could bring me from the grocery store which I usually say no to, but they bring me something either way and then give it to me saying that it will get bad if I don't eat it now...like...wtf? I said I don't want it, why should I be forced to eat something when I clearly said no??
I really Don't know how to handle it anymore. They always do this. I'm the type of person that doesn't eat breakfast usually because I'm not hungry in the morning, but they just Don't accept a no from me. They always try to control me and how much I eat. I have no issues if they eat something but they shouldn't be forcing me to do the same.
My entire family is on the chubby/overweight side of body weight but I'm the only one that is more on the skinny side because I'm just not the type if person that eats just because I'm bored and they always tell me that I'm too skinny but I honestly don't think so...I'm average and I can take care of my own weight by myself. They always try to tell me I'm the weird one only because i try to control myself around sweets and this is honestly making me a little bit insecure lately because they try to tell me that I have an eating problem and I wouldn't realize how skinny I am, but I think, since they are more on the chubby side, that they create a kind of body dysmorphia view and project it onto me since I'm not sure anymore if I'm average skinny or chubby.
(They also sometimes randomly make comments on my weight saying I have a think gap or something like that, although I clearly Don't because my thights touch??)
What should I do? Do you guys have any advice on how to handle this?
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So a lot of people show love through food and this could be their way of expressing love to you.
My mum is always coming home with cakes and piling our plates high with food, it's a running joke in the house. If I don't want to eat the cake then and there I leave it in the fridge and have it later or the next day.
What I'm going to say next you may not like but you are an adult, if you don't like it take steps to move into your own place where you can do as you please and not eat if you don't want to.
You are living under their roof, I don't know if you pay your way but even so this is how your family are and it is their house so stay and put up with it or leave and live how you like.
ReplyIt seems there is a bias that everyone has to eat a certain amount to be considered normal in your situation.. i am able to think of a few options here, you could address the bias but talking to them.. if that is kinda drainy then you could just stick on to the amount you feel is sufficient for you and maybe accept that they are biased.. and as for your insecurity or loss of clarity, i see it also as an opportunity to figure out where on the BMI you belong or even to explore more about body weight, if that would be helpful that is..
ReplyBMI weight scale will show you whether you are are normal weight, overweight, or underweight. Show them the statistical facts as proof.
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