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I don’t know where to go so i came here.
My girlfriend has dome period issue called pcod I don’t particularly get it but she has had it for all of our relationship (5yrs now it’s first relationship for both of us).
I read about it it wasn’t really an issue at all for either of us.
I don’t know if it’s related to the issue I’m having or not so here. If it’s not I’m stupid and whatever bad bigotry thing you want to call me. But I genuinely need advice.
So recently I feel these small things that have bothered me for a long time have finally bottled up. She didn’t like to kiss much i get that. She said she liked holding hands but she never really did hold mine back tightly like she wanted to. in the start of our relationship she really liked to hug and i was okay with most of the things she didn’t like physically cause i like to get hugged too.
But yeah she doesn’t anymore like anything physical in bed or otherwise. We don’t orgasm when we started trying sex for the last year and this year, she stops me long before i orgasm and I’m most of the time not even hard. She seems uninterested and does nothing reacts nothing . So we have stopped it. I really want her to hold hands and hug tightly since kiss is just not her thing i get that, she does say it is to console me but i knows it’s not.
I have a lot of pent up sexual frustration but i know it’s my issue so i use the internet like every other guy. I’m sexually attracted to her but since she shows no interest I can’t really get in the mood when I’m with her.
I have talked to her multiple times but she shows fake interest and that to only for 5 minutes each time i bring up the issue.
I don’t know what to do i love her alot and hope we can push past this. I keep getting bad thoughts about the girls that are interested in me that ways whom I usually ignored from the beginning. I have been talking to them just friend stuff though.
She recently got on a medication for pcod and stopped liking hugs around that time that’s the only thing she liked to do and without that, considering kissing and holding hands were out already, and working out at gym only made me more sexually frustrated (but i like working out on my body now) I’m feeling like being unfaithful. I know i won’t be I will break it off with her first. But god i love her she’s my support she’s my advisor she’s my happiness just looking at her pics makes me forget all the problems. Just one thing just if it wasn’t for the fact that i had sexual urges everything is perfect I want to marry her.
We are both 25 please help. Am I wrong? Are we not compatible? Are we messing up something cause it’s our first relationship? Am I messing up something? Even though i know how to turn her on she stops me before she orgasms. Is it normal? Should i get castrated? Cause I’ll do it for her.
Thanks for reading and please any advice would help I’m flying blind.
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Don't get castrated, that is too extreme. Have her as a good and close friend only and find yourself a girl friend with whom you can have sex. If she gets jealous ask her what she expects you to do.
ReplyThere are many pieces that, together, make up a relationship. The physical contact, or sexual times, are certainly part of that equation for most people. Some, however, are not interested in having sex.
They may refrain for a number of reasons - they are waiting for marriage, they are simply a-sexual, they may have trauma from a previous incident, medication side effect, etc. There's a long, long list there that could cause these kinds of things.
You two have been in a relationship for several years now but it sounds like, over time, the physical aspect has gotten smaller and smaller. This is obviously bothersome to you now. Try to flash forward in your mind and imagine what you'll feel like this time next year. Today, according to your post, you are sexually frustrated and have some inclination of being unfaithful.
I think the worst part about this is that it sounds like she's not even open to having a serious conversation with you about this so that you two can try to compromise in some way. That said, it's my best guess that this relationship will not last and, if it does, you'll just be miserable in that department.
I think you need to schedule a time to speak with her about it when there can be a time that neither of you will be bothered by the outside world. Make sure she understands how serious this is for you and that, honestly, you're not sure if you can continue this way.
If things don't pan out, she could certainly wind up with another a-sexual partner and, together, they can live out their days, not having sex, and being content with one another. And you? Well, you will eventually find another partner and there's a good chance that this girl will want to have sex as well.
You MIGHT be able to pull through this if she's at least willing to speak to you. If she's understanding of the seriousness of the situation, it may be that you two can come up with a way to handle these things. When a parent has a child who asks if you'd like to play Candyland, I don't think there's an adult out there who honestly sits around thinking it could be fun to play this game. But, because it's your child, you agree and so you play this game and you enjoy the fact that you're making your child happy. It could be that, at the very least, can can agree to allow you to have sex with her and she can go along with it all. Who knows, one day she may have a mind change and realize she's actually enjoying this to the point that she actually wants to do it again herself!
Good Luck!
ReplyThanks!
That’s actually what I want. If not atleast a reason why not half answers.
I have friends who are not in a relationship cause they want to explore and all. I don’t particularly think it’s wrong for me to want some physical connection once in awhile but she makes me feel it’s wrong just by moving away when i try to hold her hand.
ReplyYou were wondering if you were doing anything wrong or screwing this up because it's your first relationship. To be honest, no, it doesn't sound like you're doing anything wrong. There's a lot, we know, that you can't get into the story here but, overall, it sounds like you're a nice guy doing all the right things.
We're wishing you the best in what lies ahead!
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