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My brother from the uk is married to a lady from Australia. They have one baby together and have decided to move back to Australia for the better lifestyle. Her family is quite wealthy. They are all “high flyers”. Think nasa , lawyers, CEO’s. Etc. I know my brother has gone out there because he’s impressed by their comfortable lifestyle. My sister in law’s mum has found them a nice apartment near the beach which she has already renting on their behalf whilst they are prepping to leave the uk. My brother doesn’t have a job yet and can’t get one until he gets out there. His wife has got one that she starts two weeks after she gets there ( partly because She is from AU so knows the process and has qualifications ) So he is currently unemployed and having a whale of a time. My parents are absolutely devastated that they are going but obviously don’t show it. Telling him with big smiles that it’s his life and if it makes him happy then he can do it and Are fully supportive but behind closed doors my mum is utterly heartbroken and really cries every evening at the prospect of not seeing her first granddaughter grow up, not being there for her first birthday etc especially as they have already developed a very close bond. The baby is 10 months old now so recognises and reaches out for my mum for comfort often and she baby sits for 2 days a week but being in the uk there is that inevitable closeness that allows you to visit spontaneously. By contrast to our in-laws our family are quite modest, ordinary people, We are an extremely close family. Whereas they are often apart for long periods of time due to their own lifestyles and very go getting jobs . For example the mother in law will only be there for one week and then she will be gone for a fortnight at a time with work. I’ve tried to explain to her that they are people too and it wouldn’t be fair if they never got to see the baby just because she doesn’t want them to leave. But her argument in someways is a powerful one and at the same time slightly selfish. My sister in law and her mum have a very distant relationship in reality because my sister in law was sent to boarding school as a child and developed into an extremely independent person who has traveled a lot. My sister in law’s siblings all live in different parts of Australia so will not be there often. I think my mum worries that the baby will not get the close family feeling that we really treasure and is worried that there will always be that distance or the invisible wall between us all because the baby will have to grow up to be quite independent without many close ties. I think it hurts her heart to think that she will never really be able to maintain that bond that they had created. I know Skype and messenger etc exist but it isn’t the same as much as we sugarcoat it . It doesn’t replace that warm touch , caress , tight hug and eye contact which in turn makes me mention that She is also worried that my brother and my sister in law will not get the emotional and financial support that they have both been relying on from my parents whilst they have been residing here. As well as the free child care that my mum has been doing for them. My mum is worried Is worried that she won’t be able to provide as well for her granddaughter as their family can. I get it she feels that they can afford so much for her monetary wise. They set up a trust fund so she can attend private school over there and her uncle has put her name on the side of a rocket ship that’s been blasted into space. Very extravagant things and I think my parents feel a little deflated and insignificant I suppose because they could never do this for her. The only thing they can really give is a lot of love but it’s hard in a material world. This is just a voice of concern and a vent . We aren’t against them going to Australia In fact I think they need to try it otherwise they will regret it for the rest of their lives if they don’t give it a go. Plus a bonus for us is that it’s a new holiday destination for the future.
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I am in Australia and sympathize and understand your mother being upset but this may be a marvelous life for your brother and his child. In the last few years the eastern side of Australia has had terrible bush fires, and last summer NSW had rain, hail, and Sydney's suburbs flooded and there are floods around Sydney again now. There is a mid wife and nurses strike on which may be over. However, nothing bad has happened in Western Australia or The Northern Territory and Darwin and other places in the top of this country are warm all year round. My brothers are in Sydney and they survive alright so if your brother and his wife don't like living near her family they can move especially as her family are away a fair bit. Parts of this country are vastly different to other parts. I have lived in Sydney's suburbs, Sydney's Blue Mountains, Brisbane in Queensland, and Perth in Western Australia and I have stayed for holidays in Darwin, and Cairns and The Daintree rain forest both near the top of Queensland. The only dangerous things near and at the top are crocodiles but they aren't all over the place as plenty of people live in these places quite safely.
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