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1 year ago · · Need Advice,
I’m a 14yo female who has been chatting online with a 15yo male (let’s call him Robert) for a few months. Robert is a year older than me. I met him in an online class with video, so I know he is who he says he is. Robert lives in Europe. We text each other very often and we FaceTime on weekends to play video games. I enjoy hanging out with him.
Robert has admitted that he has a crush on me. I don’t feel the same way, so I told him this and we went on with our conversation. It’s been a while since this conversation. I don’t know if he still feels this way. Today he told me that in a few weeks, he might be going on vacation. During this vacation, he would be staying for a few days in the town that I live in (it’s a very large city). He asked if I wanted to meet in person. Without really thinking, I said yes.
But now that I think about it, I don’t know if I want to. We’ve only been talking for a few months, as I’ve stated, and I still don’t know him that well. I don’t know if I’m comfortable meeting him in person until I know him better. Because he may still have that crush on me, I have this fear that he views an in-person meeting as a date. Robert is a great guy, don’t get me wrong. I like being around him. I’m just hesitant to meet him in person because of the feelings towards me that he may still have. Another interesting tidbit: in his country, he is past the age of consent (it’s a very low age). I am a year below that age. Is he asking to meet me in person because he’s horny?
In summary, I’m looking for advice. I’m still trying to figure out if I still want to meet him in person. I like him, but not in the way that he probably likes me. He hasn’t said or done anything sketchy, but I don’t trust him 100% yet. He’s probably harmless, but I have trust issues. Should I still aim to meet him in person? Why or why not? If the answer is yes, what steps should I take to ensure that a meeting is as safe and platonic as possible?