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I'm scared of life. I feel shameful. I am 31, but I still feel like I am a little girl. I am afraid of taking decisions. I am afraid to try new things. I am afraid of losing my parents, friends and being alone. I feel helpless. I have a job, but it's not a well-paid one. The only skill that I have is studying. I have three diplomas, but no life skills ((( Can you give me a piece of advice?
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The best way to conquer fear is to push through it. It's all just paper tigers.
https://www.happinesspodcast.org/139-happiness-overcome-fear/
The more stuff you do - and you can start chipping away at the edge of your comfort zone one tiny piece at a time if that's easier - the wider your comfort zone becomes. Your circle of skills becomes greater the more you challenge yourself to try new things, but don't be afraid to fail at stuff the first time around, or to keep trying if you don't succeed.
So if you want to feel confident and master new stuff, just start. What kind of life skills do you want to acquire? Make a list and set goals. You probably got those 3 diplomas by being able to organise yourself and put effort towards a goal, so you can totally nail this.
Read Askamanager.org if you want advice on getting a raise or finding a better job.
In terms of losing your parents, and friends... well, you will. Your parents are probably about 30 years older than you - they will die before you do, and that's exactly the way that it's supposed to be.
https://secularbuddhism.com/149-firsts-and-lasts/
Your friends might move to another country, or acquire busy schedules, or just change some fundamental beliefs and no longer be good friends any more - you should accept that the nature of relationships is to change, and just cherish the experience of them right now.
Your life is finite, and fear is an illusion that stops you from fully living. Embrace impermanence, and create happiness for yourself. Namaste.
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