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• Novni Guest · 5 months ago

  There’s professionals on this forum, maybe try to discuss it with one of them.

  They provide you with support.

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• Nonayah · 5 months ago

  I used to be suicidal, and being suicidal is different from person to person. My two cents on this would be...DONT tell him everything will get better, DONT tell him to not die, DONT compliment him. Personally, all of these things made me feel worse, idk about him.

  Try to act normal with him and text him every day, have lighthearted conversations, and when you find out he made something by himself or something, just say "Wow!! I like this, where did you buy it?" and he will say "I made it/drew it/did it on my own" and you'll say "What? Really??????? Omg I cant believe that!!!! It looks so ready-made!" start sharing YOUR feelings with him and when he gives you emotional support, tell him thank you and you honestly made him feel so much better.

  Just start being friends with him and tell him that you love him...Meet up often, if he doesn't come somewhere, start annoying him and tell him that pleaseee come and then if he doesn't come text i miss you and it was so boring without you..andyou wont go there without him next time etc

  All the little things

  But don't let him know that you know he's suicidal

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• Novni Guest · 5 months ago

  so i've had to deal with a suicidal person on several occasions, most of the time at school. my middle school best friend would go through depression spells and would often talk about how she wanted to attempt suicide. whenever it happened, i would just go have a chat with the school counselor and the counselor helped her out. sometimes she would text me about this late at night, and my response would usually remind her of all the people that would miss her (parents, friends, her pets), options for therapy, and what she could make of herself if she just gave herself more time. the important thing is to be calm, and try not to make it about yourself. good luck

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• AllHailTheGlowCloud · 5 months ago

  You should listen. Don't panic and rush to try and fix anything - just give your full attention and listen. Suicidal feelings are always present in someone who feels disconnected from the rest of the world in some way. It's a really hard perspective to understand unless you've experienced it yourself. Show them that they are not alone, and that you care about whether or not they exist in the world, just by givng them your full attention, and listening without judgement for a while.

  Try to get to the heart of this person's personal circumstances, and understand them. Not everyone who expresses suicidal ideation is on the very brink at that moment - sometimes it's just something that's weighing on their mind that they need to talk through.

  And if you can't do that (being a compassionate listener for someone who's in a crisis is emotionally very tiring, and it's harder than you might think), then try to make sure they talk with someone who can. Encourage them to contact Samaritans, or another professional resource that can handle their situation, and be supportive in that you know they've got better options, and that you believe they are capable of recovery. Try to follow up with them and ask them if it helped them, or what steps they're thinking of taking next.

  It's not your job to get them to feel happy about life, you just need to help them see something they can step towards that isn't a ledge.

  https://www.healthyplace.com/suicide/how-to-talk-to-a-suicidal-person

  https://www.nursingtimes.net/students/how-to-talk-to-a-suicidal-patient-20-06-2018/

  https://www.rethink.org/advice-and-information/carers-hub/suicidal-thoughts-how-to-support-someone/

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