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I have this ex friend that I met online back in late 2011 or early 2012. We are no longer friends and once again he ruined his chances of being my friend again a couple months ago. There’s too much problematic stuff that he has done in the past and still continues to do today, even though he believes he’s changed. I really wanna let people know how bad he still is. Not to ruin his life, but to help others and hopefully help him improve his behavior. Idk if I should make a PSA about him or what (I won’t mention everything that he’s done here but some things that he said were ableist and racist just to give you an idea).
I don’t wanna use any of my accounts though…I really don’t know what to do.
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Don't do it. If it's a close friend of yours that he's dealing with then yeah, be a friend. Other than that he will burn himself on his own.
ReplyHe's not going to improve, and it's not your job to fix him.
Saying racist and ablist things is bound to be met with disapproval, and at some point he'll either
A) realise he has to quit saying that stuff in order to get along with people (but still think it), or
B) maybe have some genuine redemption and change his mind about race and disability issues, or
C) he'll just go and hang out with people who don't have a problem with racism and ableism and be lost to the Nazi movement through online radicalisation.
Making a public call-out post is just cyberbullying, no matter how much you think it's fair and true. And it makes C) much more likely, because Nazis thrive on a persecution narrative.
You could say to him politely that you no longer feel that you can stay friends because of the way you feel about his comments, and how it affects your relationship, but he's not likely to receive it as a 'Come To Jesus' message, in the way that you want him to.
If you want this guy to change, all you can do is hope it happens.
Not your circus, not your monkeys. Just move on.
ReplyThanks :) unfortunately he blocked me on one social media for a very stupid reason and I blocked him on another last year. The main place he can talk to me he doesn’t log into anymore so maybe I’ll tell him there whenever he logs into that place
ReplyIf it's been a long time, and you've both already ghosted each other, you should probably just let it be.
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