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3 months ago · · Relationships,
After it all ends, we give up so much. The songs we listened to in the happier times. We go through the hurt and ache every time it plays again. “Our song”, “their song”, “this reminds me of…” and sometimes, if it hurts too much, we push it away. Block it out. We stop visiting the place that used to be our escape because it was “our place” and only reminds us of the recent failure or end what we believed would last the rest of time.
But it all matters! It all means so much. To have it and then lose it doesn’t make it any less significant. Why should we lose another thing that brings us happiness in the divorce of these lost “things”. Why should we not have the freedom to listen to the songs under another circumstance and give them new meaning? Why shouldn’t we visit the place with another friend or loved one and create a new memory, giving new life and meaning to the location?
Just because one aspect of what we loved or where we loved is not present doesn’t mean we must box up what’s left of it and put it on the shelf of memories.
We don’t have to let these things be a prison preventing our growth. Let us give it a new life. Rebirth. Let us nurture this new fondness and fall in love on another level. With time the aches and names may fade. We’ll smile when we hear it or when we’re visiting.
Sure, something will bring the old to light, and maybe the pain won’t be as strong. Maybe…the sadness will slip through the thought and leave a warmth as gentle as sun breaking through the clouds. We’ll smile. We’ll remember that we were happy and accept that we ARE happy. We will smile.