Just had another fight

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• Novni Guest · 2 days ago

  try talking to them by letting them know how fighting makes you feel. maybe you guys need some space or time apart and just have a little break because a break is like putting a bookmark in the relationship, so you both can take a step back, and reassess what the partnership means to you both. if that doesn't work, maybe try going to marriage counseling and get professional advice. it's normal for couples to fight over small things but not constantly. i hope this helps and i hope you get this worked out <3

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• AllHailTheGlowCloud · 2 days ago

  All couples argue, sometimes even with real anger and shouting - but do you feel like it involves hearing each other's side and then coming to some kind of problem-solving agreement afterwards? Or is it just a barrage of hostility?

  Do you laugh, and enjoy each other's company when you're not fighting?

  I listened to this podcast segment about conflict in marriages a while ago, and it struck me as really useful for deciding what constitutes a deal-breaker when it comes to couples fighting.

  https://www.thisamericanlife.org/261/the-sanctity-of-marriage/act-one-1

  The researchers assessed the quality of fights between couples - and found that the best predictors of divorce were contempt, and not having fun together generally.

  Whether you consider couples counselling, or divorce, I hope you reach a situation where the conflict in your life is the kind that you can resolve.

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