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I have sever social anxiety.. And it keeps getting worse.. I have no idea how to deal with it.. Whenever someone talks to me I become so awkward...and I alwayd judge my self so hard on what I'm saying cause I'm afraid I'll sound boring or weird.. College is starting next week and im really nervous that I'll ruin my chance of making friends and good memories..and it doesn't help that I have zero self confidence..
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its okay dear ,don't feel so much depressed its normal and happens to everyone but what matters is the way you face everything,keep going .you will soon make it . everything will be okay and more beautiful.Just do your best and stay happy . and don't worry about friends you will have many good friends dear, and look you just made one ^_^
ReplyOK, so everyone else has personal issues and not much time to watch you that closely. Go about your days being the best self you can at the time. You can't do better than this.
Include some positive self-talking to counteract this negative impression you have of yourself. Decide that optimism is more useful and helpful than pessimism because we pay attention to and often get (or at least move toward) the things we think about most. Expect, accept and give thanks for any progress you make, no matter how small or minor.
Anxiety is bodily sensations that are named, described, and often have an elaborate story added on. The next time you feel anxious just sit there with the sensation and let it be there for as long as it lasts. Don't resist it, make mental comments, or get emotional about it. Eventually it will subside from lack of attention and the energy it needs to persist. Then do or think about the new issue, concern, or obligation in front of you.
You have to change your mind first so that LIFE knows which path to put in front of you.
You will be surprised at how simple and important this approach is.
ReplyYou're right about the confidence thing. I think of anxiety as like a circle of comfort. You can make your circle really small so everything creates anxiety (by not doing things etc) OR you can push against the circle and make it bigger (by trying, feeling a little uncomfortable and being ok with it). Always try and make the circle just that little bit bigger. Experience helps with social anxiety and I've suffered from my own wierd social anxieties for a long time. Meds help me on days where being around other people is too challenging. Talking to people may help you, or may not. But experience will help you not worry AS much about what you're saying. Social anxiety can be very exhausting, i get it. I tend to tell ppl now that im an introvert. I set the scene to ppl that I like putting headphones in sometimes, or i don't like being social much etc. Makes me feel like I've told them what to expect if I'm quiet and just focused on work. Anyway, long story short, you've got this. :)
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