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I’m 19. Never been in a relationship. Never done anything sexually. I’m just your typical female late bloomer hopeless romantic. I’m in college now and honestly I was not looking to be in a relationship the past 2 years. I was focused on school, other life events, and most importantly me. Now that my mental health is becoming better I find myself craving for more things in life. Maybe I’m ready to live and not just exist as a ghost in the background.
Right now I want a romantic relationship. I’ve had a few talking stages in high school and that was high school so it wasn’t the best. They were childish, toxic, and a bit traumatic. I had my first kiss a few months ago but I don’t claim it. Maybe I should stop putting such significance on the first of things. However, when you’ve barely experienced anything you can’t help but keep count. It was a guy friend who admitted he kissed me because he was horny. What a beautiful story, right. He’s an ex friend and, to be honest, I wasn’t that hurt because I was already numb and not surprised by his actions.
Anyways. I want something serious . I want to get to know someone. I want to learn from someone. I want someone to want the same things from me. There’s this guy I’m really attracted to. However, I am beyond terrified to make a move. This gets deeper because I am black and if you know anything about this world ….black women seem to be the punching bag .
I have newfound love for myself, but why do I not believe anyone will ever love me. I’m trying to fix this belief system in therapy but damn it is hard. I tell myself if he rejects me then cool it’s not the end of the world. I know that in my heart everything will be ok and he’s just not the one. But my brain. My brain will try to convince me that I am unlovable any chance it gets. Any failure. Any rejection. Anything that is not a yes or success it does not like.
Anyways it’s just an interest . I want to get to know him more before I actually consider it a ….crush? What should I do? I’m socially awkward but I want to push further and go out of my comfort zones.
I am who I am. I want something more for myself, but I am afraid. Any advice?
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None, considering I myself am 17 and haven't even had my first kiss yet!
But best of luck from me! Don't worry about no one loving you - just from reading this post I can tell if I knew you in real life, I would really like you!
I'm rooting for ya!
ReplyAhh I seeee, but here's the thing I'm a young teen so I can't say much of advice. I only been in one relationship so hope this helps Haha. Take your chances! see I tend to feel so nervous and just so stress to get out of my comfort zone, but I always remember I have one in a lifetime, I got this. Take it step by step by getting out your comfort zone! I see your attracted to this guy. Don't be so down on yourself, I don't even know you, but I bet you're loveable! one thing you can do is break down limiting beliefs. Your beliefs create your world and they’re the only thing holding you back from having everything you ever dreamed of. So just do it! make long convos with this guy or go for a walk with him and you know small stuff can become big stuff. So, take it step for step. You got this girl; I believe in you truly :)
ReplyUsually, not always, but usually, men prefer to chase and women prefer to be chased. And it is during the chase that romantic love is sparked. Try super hard to not reveal your crush, learn confidence (it will take time), and take up a hobby where you have opportunity to interact with people once in a while. Best of luck.
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Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.
Mark 12:28-31
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Love God first and foremost.
Love your fellow-being as you love yourself.
From following or not following these, all good or evil cascades, respectively.
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