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So I lost my virginity today with my boyfriend and I’m kind of worried because we didn’t use protection. Which is not good and generally a bad idea I know but we already bought condoms for next time and we’re going to be a lot more careful in the future. But I’m really worried about whether or not I should get plan b just in case, or more importantly whether I should get tested for stds. He didn’t finish inside me and as far as I know we both haven’t been sexually active before this, but I’m still really nervous
I don’t know what to do and don’t know anyone irl that I can talk to about this so I need some advice haha
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girl ok so my first time i was just as scared as you and yet i ran to my friends for advice and they told me as long as i pee after our rounds that i should be good. but then again that wasnt enough for me hahaha my virgina hurt a lot lol tmi but you should be good its always safe to have a pregnancy test on hand just so you know youre not pregnant i know this is like so much but hahaha it worked for me.
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ReplyOne of my best friends was not careful her first time either and ended up pregnant and with herpes. got a 2 for 1 special — if you want to be safe take those steps and get tested.
Replybetter safe than sorry to get tested for both stds and plan b
ReplyGet tested, and relax. It's alright, you didn't commit a crime or anything.
ReplyAnd even if it were a crime, what's that got to do with anyone else as long as they are consenting adults.
ReplyTo make sure you are understanding all of this...the man doesn't have to "finish" to release semen. We understand that an orgasm will trigger an ejaculation but seminal fluid can leak, or ooze, from the penis far long before an orgasm. And while the counts are typically very low, there can be sperm in the seminal fluid. That said, the man doesn't have to have an orgasm and/or ejaculate inside you for you to become pregnant.
Many call "the pullout" a form of birth control but it's typically not a good idea for two reasons. For one, as I've already mentioned, he can be leaking seminal fluid, containing semen, prior to "the pullout". Secondly, "the pullout" method is based on the fact that most can tell when an orgasm is about to happen. It's like someone pressed a button and a countdown begins. In repetition, the man begins to have a great understanding of how long this countdown is for him - maybe six seconds or ten seconds, etc. And he could be absolutely correct most of the time, but sometimes the timer can last longer and sometimes it can be much, much shorter. In the pullout, if he assumes he has ten seconds but is really sexually excited and all amped up, his timer may be more like two seconds. This means, of course, he's going to ejaculate far sooner than he expects.
We know people like to have sex without condoms because, as most would say (both men and women), it feels better. The pullout method, I think, should be reserved for couples who are in a very serious relationship and willing to take on the responsibilities of parenthood.
Another user here responded to your post that you should be ok if you urinate just after the event. We do understand that the urethra (where the urine comes out) and the vaginal canal are two different openings, correct? Urinating may flush out the upper tube but not the vaginal canal. It is true, I will add, that as you "press" to push out the urine, you are also putting pressure on the lower canal which can, and probably will, expel some semen (should there be any there) but it's not actually getting all of the ejaculate out. I hope we understand that. This means that urinating after having sex will not prevent you from getting pregnant. Anyone stating so who claims to have experienced the same in the past has been lucky is all. You may not be ready to take that chance.
If neither of you have been sexually active in the past, there is a really good chance that you don't have an STD. If you're unsure, visit your doctor for testing. Insurance will typically pay for these kinds of tests 100% at least once per year meaning you could be tested with very little (maybe a copay) or no money out of pocket. If you've never been tested, expect to urinate into a cup and have a little blood drawn. You should get the results several days later.
If you're worried about the possibility of pregnancy, you should see a doctor as soon as possible. Plan B is only effective if taken within a short window of time after the egg is fertilized. If he didn't "finish" inside you, though, and while it is possible to have a low count of sperm in the semen during intercourse, the odds of getting pregnant are very low. And while the odds are low, it is possible.
It sounds like you are prepared to use protection moving forward and that's good news. If you get yourself on birth control, and you and your partner are committed to having sex only with each other, it's possible that you could have sex without condoms once your birth control starts working. I would only recommend this if both of you agree that sex without a condom is more enjoyable. Your birth control should keep you from getting pregnant (if used correctly) and there may not be a need to use a condom to prevent STDs if you both are STD free and only sleeping with each other.
Good Luck!
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