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For a Girl getting married is everything??

3 months ago · 9 · Love, +6


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"You are 23. Just have the engagement now and you can marry after few years". "Its the right time, if it is gone you will not get a good guy later on". Literally getting married and having a good husband is the only destiny for which a girl gets birth. She doesn't have any other dreams? No individuality of her own?

The relatives keep on saying " You can pursue you dreams and career even after marriage if you are dedicated enough". If I am allowed to pursue my dreams after marriage then Why am I not allowed to pursue it a first place and getting married after that? Is this mention somewhere that at this particular age I will get a charming prince and will be left with no option after 2-3 years. The boys are going to be vanished from the earth, if I keep on thinking about myself and not listening to what others expect from me then I will be in great loss.

Intercaste marriage is not allowed. Choosing a guy from an unknown family is not allowed even if they belong to same caste. Choosing someone outside our society(So called 'Samaj') is not allowed. Just choose a guy as your partner whose parents are known to us. Just Because "Log Kya Kahenge". It doesn't matter right whether our vibes matches or not, whether we understand each other or not ? He is a perfect partner just because he belongs to our caste and we know his parents and relatives. This is the only criteria to select someone with whom we gonna spent our entire life with.

I Love a guy. He belongs to my caste, the only reasons he is not being accepted is his family is unknown to us, he is using a different last name, he belongs to some other district. Is this how we predict whether the person is good or bad?

For my family I agreed at once but now my relatives keep on forcing me to get engaged/married with a guy who is from their family by keeping all my career dreams aside and asking me to follow my dreams after the marriage.

But now I have made my decision, I will neither sacrifice my love nor my career/dreams just for this pathetic society and their stupid thoughts. Even if I am alone, no one stands by my side I will fight for what I want.

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  • Novni Guest · 3 months ago

    you deserve to have a say in this, go get your man! 💞

    Reply
    • Laxita · 3 months ago

      That means a lot to me... Thanks...

      Reply
  • Novni Guest · 3 months ago

    You are going against your culture and taking notice of the western culture. The way people marry in your culture has been working for thousands of years, and there are so many divorces in the western culture it is amazing. I am of the western culture and see that once many couples who are in love marry they don't get on. Years ago, when wives obeyed their husbands there were very few divorces, but now that women want to be the bosses marriage doesn't work so well. So, if you do fight for what you want allow the man to be the boss. Marriage works better this way.

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    • Laxita · 3 months ago

      I understand that my man has to be the boss, I don't want to go against my culture but I only want to marry the guy of my choice.

      Reply
      • Novni Guest · 3 months ago

        You're brainwashed. Never heard of equality as a human being?

        Reply
    • Novni Guest · 3 months ago

      Women are not on Earth to obey men. Get the fuck out of here with your brainwashing bullshit. Women are ADULT human beings with fully developed brains, just the same as men. Women are not infants, so stop infantilising women.

      Reply
  • Novni Guest · 3 months ago

    Your story your choice your life your responsibility

    Reply
  • Novni Guest · 3 months ago

    Then don't get married and leave the guys for the rest of us who don't get attention.

    Reply
  • Nonayah · 3 months ago

    You're 23. You're a grown woman, not a child. Do what you want.

    Reply

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