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Your iq matters. Everyone is judgmental about how you think and about your and your academic skill. Society is disgusting. If you are smart and good-looking you are a “++”. If you are smart and ugly you are a “+”. If you are dumb but pretty, you are “+”. If your are neither you’re “- -“. Society doesn’t look at you from another perspectives. I’m tired of this life I want to die. So much expectations. They make me hate myself. I can’t love myself no matter how much I try.
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Ignore all of this crap and do your own thing. You don't have to live up to people's expectations.
ReplyFamily members, friends, neighbors, teachers, society began labeling us starting at an early age. This continues to this day and along the way we accept and adopt some of these descriptions – I am pretty, ugly, fat, skinny, clumsy, athletic, smart, stupid, rude, sensitive, perceptive, naive, sad, serious, cautious, reckless, emotional, etc... We began seeing ourselves as this defined limited character (a separate self) and our thoughts and behaviors are consistent with this idea. Our ‘separate self’ character feels incomplete and imperfect and wants to get what is missing while getting rid of problem areas.
When the unwanted happens to us or the preferred does not and every time our effort to fix ourself fails, we suffer. It comes in the form of agitation, irritation, boredom, disappointment, regret, jealousy, anxiety, depression, fear, loneliness, anger, grief, pain, or some other unwelcomed feeling or sensation.
Each of us are self-aware to an extent but when this knowledge is not clear, our true nature is hidden. A close look reveals that the most common element found in every one of my experiences is my presence – ‘I am there’. When I am sad, I am present there. When I am happy, I am present there. When I am scared, I am present there. When I am in love, I am present there. When I am angry, I am present there. I AM always present AWARENESS without shape, size, age, race, gender, weaknesses, needs, or demands. As undefinable unlimited AWARENESS, I can’t be harmed and, therefore, resists nothing.
The dance of creation is all of GOD’s creatures just experiencing each other and surrounding things. Animals do what they must and then enjoy their down time moments or sleep. After handling our obligations, instead of enjoying ourselves, we usually try to make our current situation different / better than it is. We attempt to acquire and secure preferred objects, circumstances, wealth, activities, and / or relationships expecting them to deliver lasting peace, love, and happiness. Any satisfaction that results from these efforts is only temporary. I finally realize that these coveted feelings are not earned, produced, provided, achieved, or possessed. Peace, love, and happiness have always been and will always be our essential nature. They shine through my being and energize my actions now that I see clearly.
You are love itself. Living is a process that reveals that this is so. It takes a little while so don't give up.
ReplySince I left school, my intelligence has counted for very little (IQ is not a good measure of intelligence, btw). What people really care about is whether you're generally competent and pleasant to be around.
I'm not saying people aren't biased about people based on the schools they attended, or superficial appearances, but it's never the biggest factor in someone's impression of you. The harvard-graduate supermodel will get rejected in the job interview if he's rude to the receptionist.
Your purpose in life is not to love yourself but to love being yourself. If you goal is to love yourself, then your focus is directed inward toward yourself, and you end up constantly watching yourself from the outside, disconnected, trying to summon the “correct” feelings towards yourself or fashion yourself into something you can approve of.
If your goal is to love being yourself, then your focus is directed outward towards life, on living and making decisions based on what brings you pleasure and fulfillment. Be the subject, not the object. It doesn’t matter what you think of yourself. You are experiencing life. Life is not experiencing you.
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