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Due to years of anxiety and depression I've truned out to be a really low confident and socially anxious person. I've an interview due but I don't know how to prepare myself, I feel like I'll be rejected. I don't even go outside to enjoy with friends due to social anxiety. Pls I need advise.
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All thoughts, including these about social anxiety, come and go. What exactly were you thinking about this time 2 days ago? No one knows. Have you ever had a thought that just showed up and soon left (was replaced by another thought) without you hardly noticing. That thought left because you gave it absolutely nothing - no reaction at all. Most thoughts show up uninvited, many are unwanted, and all of them need the energy you provide to persist. This energy comes from your attention, initially, and when you add mental opinions, comments, a dramatic story, and some emotions, the thought is super charged with staying power.
At its core, anxiety is a bodily sensation like increased heart rate and maybe sweaty palms, pits, and forehead. It is the body's reaction to a perceived or imagined danger. Anxiety comes to life and causes problems when you add the mental commentary and then emotionally react to the story you are telling yourself about the sensation. Without these words, the sensation will subside much quicker.
You are not your thoughts. You are the one who can and should decide which thoughts are worthy of further consideration. Unwanted thoughts can't be prevented but they can be starved of this much needed energy. When the next unwanted thought arrives, don't resist it, name it, describe it, or react in any way at all. Just let it be there until it is replaced with another, perhaps, unwanted thought. If it is, repeat the no response process. When a wanted thought shows up, pay attention, use your imagination, get excited, and even allow it to direct your actions.
You have a very powerful and complicated thinking instrument (your brain) that needs to be better understood and managed. This is a way to start doing that. I can say more if you are encouraged by this method.
Replymkay, so, basically what helps me is telling myself "You have to do this or else you have to do [something crazy]" like destroying the first thing u see...and obvi, u don't wanna do that cuz that'll put u in a mental hospital sooo u end up doing whatever u gotta do
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