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I have a tendency to meet people, know them for a while (like a few years) and then just forget about them. And what bothers me is that i have no problem with it. Throughout my pretty short life people have come in and out and in and out of it, and there are very very few people that I have voluntarily kept in my life. It's like a car, you have it for a certain amount of years and then it's done with. And none of these people were mean or anything. Maybe I'm just not meeting the right people for me or maybe there's something wrong with me.
I'm not sure where the line between ghosting and drifting apart is, but a lot of the people I "ghosted" were basically both of us simultaneously stopped talking to each other, which i guess is kinda drifting apart. There are two people that I just randomly stopped talking to and both of them were because I just didn't feel like enjoy having a friendship with them anymore even though they didnt do anything wrong. I really am only in contact with the people that I currently have to interact with. Once any of them move away, or I move I just don't talk to them anymore. I have found that I am super super picky about people and it is very rare that I truly care about someone (platonically) so much that I actually want to voluntarily keep them in my life. I always find something about people that just isn't right for me.
There is only one person I know right now that I am positive I want to know for the rest of my life. She is someone who I met about 3 years ago and she has been such a role model to me, I genuinely enjoy her company and her personality and I love her, truly. I close to never love people. I just like them or dont like them or hate them. Besides her, all the people I know right now (I'm in school btw) I know I'll drift apart from after graduation and I have no problem with that. I am a Virgo BTW if that helps explain it. I feel like this makes me seem like a cold person. Is it normal ???
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Astrology is made up, so that can't explain it.
ReplyRewrite your whole post, but this time, only include actual facts.
ReplyWdym these are actual facts! That was just a suggestion
ReplyI’m so tired of people trying to interfere with me and my friend of nearly three years’ relationship. It makes me want to just sit an entire day holding him just to see that he’s here.
ReplyNo one is "interfering" with friendship. This is a public space. If your friendship was going well you wouldn't need to be on here talking to each other. People are simply annoyed with your self-absorbed childish bs.
Replyi think that there are three types of friends. they're in your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
maybe you met someone and you learned some new things, say you learned a lesson. but without them, you wouldnt have learned from a mistake/experience/something right? that person is a reason. a seasonal friendship can help you get through a period of time, however long that may be. you could have a friend for, lets say a year. you have math class with them or something. you talk every time youre in that class, and... once the year is over, you dont talk anymore. thats NORMAL. its completely ok. you both benefited from that friendship because you both had someone to talk to in that class. you didnt have to be lonely. but now youre moved on. and thats OK. that person was in your life for a season. and lifetime friends are rare. plenty of people have lifetime friends, however you usually wont meet a lifetime friend until later in life.
anyway, my point being, youre not a cold person. its just how life rolls. its ok to drift apart sometimes.
best of luck! :D
ReplyI get where you are coming from when you say that you are super picky about people. which is a good thing, until its not. you might have been ghosting the wrong person someday, like youll think back and say, shit maybe i shouldnt have done that. some people truly are good people, and maybe youll never see that.
and people coming in and out of your life is what made that happen, but remember how you felt when that happened to you? I dont know, ive met a lot of Virgos who have felt the same way. I am a Libra so I wouldnt know how that feels. But being on the opposite side of where you are, being ghosted frickin sucks. you no longer know what happened, if you did something wrong, or if you werent enough. It creates issues all over the place.
but i have also ghosted people, because i mess around and say, there isnt allowed to have any emotions attached which makes the other person weary. so then i get what i want and then leave.
it is normal, like you said, people come and people go.
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