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I don't know why but I feel like whenever I talk or not, I feel like I did something wrong.
I feel like everything I did or didn't felt like I did something wrong.
And that I don't make sense at all...
I always feel like I don't belong anywhere really, especially because I have problems talking to someone and making friends.
I feel stupid too, I'm in collage now (freshman) and I don't even know what to do or what to choose.
I'm supposed to be an adult and yet I don't know how to... And felt like I can't do anything because I'm so indecisive.
And I hate it when I can't do anything and needed help or guidence. I always saw bad things in me and not the good things and I hate it.
Funny really I go in psychology major and can't even talk to people properly when it's literally the main thing psychologist need in the first place...
And I don't know what to do with myself anymore....
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You have this powerful and complicated thinking instrument (your brain) that needs to be better understood and managed. All thoughts, including these you just shared, come and go. What were you thinking about this time yesterday? No one knows. Most thoughts just show up uninvited and many are unwanted. It's like this for everybody. Have you ever had a thought that arrived and soon left (was replaced) without much notice? That happened because you gave that thought nothing
- no reaction, no attention, no comment, no emotions.
All thoughts (the good and the bad, the helpful and the harmful) need the energy we provide to persist. This energy comes from our attention, initially, and when we add the mental comments and emotions, any thought would be super charged with staying power.
You are not your thoughts. Their arrival does not make them automatically meaningful. You do that when you energize them. So, when the next unwanted thought shows up (that will be right about now), don't resist it, don't add any mental comments, don't react emotionally. Just let it be with you until it is replaced with another, perhaps, unwanted thought. If that happens, repeat the no reaction response. Eventually, a helpful thought will arrive and when it does, energize the hell out of it. Pay attention, get excited, use your imagination, and even allow it to direct you to do something supportive.
This is your new practice. Within days you will feel a lot better and will have a new self-talking conversation going on. Not this gloom and doom stuff you just shared. Optimists see obstacles and disappointments as temporary and as learning opportunities. Learn what you can, make adjustments, and move on. Pessimists see the exact same things as confirmation that they are unworthy of happiness and success. Life brings to us what we expect and think about most.
If you want a better life, it starts on the inside - in the way you think.
None of us have much control over what happens next, especially when it involves other people and factors. Our superpowers reside in the way we react to these encounters. We really don't have a life to live as we choose. LIFE has us. Each of us is what LIFE is doing where we are right now. When we let go of this false sense of control, LIFE can use our presence to bring more light and love into this world.
You are young and smart. Life is exciting and uncertain. Get busy trying stuff and taking chances. There are no guarantees. Don't forget to laugh a lot and have some fun.
Re-read this post over and over again. You have to put a new perspective in that brain of yours.
You are already OK and are in the process of discovering / uncovering this reality. Sharing your thoughts and getting my response is part of that process.
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