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2 months ago · 1 · need help, +1
Sooo a little about me, I'm an adult I'm her mid 20s living in a city away from home for job with 2 other friends on an apartment. We're all renting this 3 bedroom apartment in a residential building. So before we got this house we made it very clear with our owners and they confirmed that they don't have an issue with our guy friends coming over and staying from time to time. In our country people view boy and girl under a roof before marriage like a crime even ur the guy is just a friend or even brother. So we confirmed that. After moving in few months in everything was okay. Our neighbors were okayish, there are all families in the building but they used to talk fine and everything was okay. But suddenly a few months ago things started getting difficult, few men in the building started calling us and asking to party and all. We denied but they kept saying that we bring a lot of friends home and all that stuff. A few days later they called our owner and complained that we're making noise in the room and bringing a lot of boys. Now let me tell you, there were like 2 guys that came over a span of few months. Our owner supported us but still we said okay we'll not play loud music and all. But the men kept harassing us and they kept calling our owner and complaining that boys are coming over, staying the night - even using words like this is not a hotel and all. They yelled at us and made bad comments in the name that we're sluts and questioning our character. Owner supported us and a lot of shouting happened. So it's been few weeks since and things are quiet now, we don't really talk to anyone anymore. But today owner said that they'll come with police tomorrow and file a complaint against the men for their behavior, they asked us to let the police know that they keep harassing us and keeps eyes on who's coming to our home and all. Now the thing is I'm kinda scared, I've always been a type to hate confrontation. I don't really like fighting and tension, my anxious mind can't take this actually. We said yes we'll cooperate but it's killing me inside. I don't really know how to react tomorrow and how should I behave. Can anyone give me an advice like a big sibling or friend? I can really use some help.
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This is horrible. First of all that behavior is completely inappropriate and those guys sound like complete trash. They need to be held accountable for what they have done because that's just not okay. Being denied and then acting like that is extremely alarming. I hate confrontation and get extremely anxious when it comes to that stuff too so I know how you feel. I've had a tough time standing up for myself in the past and I've started to change that but it is challenging. I think it's important to remind yourself that what you're doing, getting the police involved, is a great thing because these men could potentially be doing/ saying inappropriate things to other women and now the police will have a complaint on file about these men so if anything else ever happens with them, the police will see their previous assaults and could potentially in the end help another women. Remind yourself that you're not only standing up for yourself but also for so many other women. You are so brave and I know that anxiety doesn't just go away when someone tells you to not have anxiety but truly just take some deep breathes and have confidence (fake it till you make it is sometimes what you gotta do). You are doing the right thing and should be very proud of yourself. They need to be held accountable. This will be a great learning experience and will only make you stronger in the end, I promise. Please do not be afraid to stand up for yourself, say it loud and proud!!!!Reply