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2 months ago · 4 · Need Advice, +1


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What to do when my brother is a pedophile? He's older than me and he touched me and my sister when we were about seven or younger. He NEVER apologized or got in trouble, it was kept a secret for years. I never told anybody because I'm afraid of what will happen afterwards. I have been considering dangerous things lately.... He ruined MY LIFE.

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  • Novni Guest · 2 months ago

    I just....want to know...

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  • Novni Guest · 2 months ago

    Tell everyone, shout it out loud and let the world know that as a victim you refuse to be victimized!!!!

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  • Novni Guest · 2 months ago

    Don't destroy yourself because of him. Tell your parents first, if they do nothing then tell your teachers, counselor if you have one, any person in a position of authority who can help. Cops won't help, if it happened some time ago so don't bother with them, they're useless. But maybe there's a lawyer who specializes in protecting the rights, and getting care & treatment for people who were abused. Tell someone, but start with the people you trust the most. You can't keep this bottled up, it will destroy you.

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  • nqr · 2 months ago

    You tell the police. You tell a teacher. A friend. You have him have to answer for it and you make your parents have to acknowledge it. Then when you're old enough you move out and you pretend he doesn't exist. You set boundaries with your parents like you don't want to know about him or him to know about you. You only go to functions if he's not present and if you do want to go and he is present, you don't converse with him. If he pretends in front of others that slls fine etc, you DON'T pretend and you walk away showing that you will not pretend for the sake of others around because your anger, discomfort and disgust is because of what he did.

    I speak this from experience. I have no older brother. My parents never understood the deep impact it had on me but I did make them acknowledge that i told them, until I stopped bothering and just better protected myself.

    Unfortunately the police never came or listened when I called, but police are better now with these things ❤️

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