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I have this issue with gift picking.
First of all, I always have thoughts like what if they don't really like what I gave. Of course they'd accept it gratefully (after all, my very few close friend and family are all nice). But, what if deep inside, they don't really need the gift. Probably it will cluster their home, or just will be sitting there collecting dust. Then they probably want to remove it after years, and feel a bit heavy because it's a gift. Also, what if they already have that thing, and I don't know about it. It's hard also since I'm not very observant on what people likes or dislikes, unless they said it by the own mouth.
Also, since I'm very much a cheapskate, I like to buy cheap item that works or looks like the expensive one. So when I feel excited to pick gifts (from dollar shop or cheap online e-commerce), I will immediately think about it. Like what if they think it's too cheap, especially since I already earn my own money. I can buy them the expensive ones, but opt to get the cheaper version. What distress me the most about this, is that I have a family member that like giving and does not shy away from original, expensive items. When we want to gift the same person either for birthday or anniversary, she always know what exactly to give and is not swayed by the price tag. While I'm here even with my salary that's a bit higher than her, is probably too stingy to choose expensive items. And that will cause me to more overthinking, whether the gifted person will compare the value of the gift, especially when the price different is a bit huge. What if they think I value them lesser than her because of the value of the gift. I've talked to her before like how is she so good at picking gifts, and she said, she just like to give and doesn't mind about the price. Even if she doesn't have that much money, she would still buy the best gift she could (and yes she paid everything in cash, never in instalment).
I just really want to gift someone to show I appreciate them, but at the same time, I'm so mindful of my financial condition. Sometimes I think that I'm probably too negative to be thinking people are like that (especially my closed ones). I'm probably thinking so lowly of them. It's probably my own problem.. idk.. but I can't just remove this feelings everytime it happen. Especially since I have experience of accidentally gifting someone the same thing as someone else (and their present is opened first, in front of many people). When I saw what other people gave, and it's similar to mine, but with a higher price and quality (more known brand), my heart drops right away. Of course I didn't tell the gifted person, or anyone there. So i just told that person to open my gift later, by their own, privately.
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