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What do you do when your grandmothers going to euthanize herself?
1 year ago · 4 · Need Advice, +7
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I just found out a few weeks ago my grandma has cancer and I just learned that she is going to euthanize herself on Tuesday ( a few days after her birthday). She lives halfway across the country and she wasn't a good mother to my dad but he went to see her anyway. I'm devastated. What do I do? Someone, please tell me what the procedure is. What do I say to her? What do I do? What's the best use of my time? How am I supposed to just go to school on Tuesday like my grandmother won't be killing herself while I'm doing school?
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I know its hard, but people are tough and I bet you are tough and think of that she is going to watch you from heaven
Replyi want to start off by saying that everything you feel is valid. grief is complicated, no one grieves the same so everything you may feel is valid. if you can go visit her, visit her. sometimes in situations like these the person's mind is already made up and there is nothing we can unfortunately do. part of you has to honor that choice even if it is a hard one to. tell her you love her. try to spend your time reminiscing the good memories you have of her because those are the ones that will last. you don't have to go to school on tuesday. take a mental health day, take a day to yourself. use that day to honor her memory and her.
ReplyI suppose its her choice. I hate to hear about anyone doing that. I really don't know the procedure. Sometimes its a pill or an i v administered by doctors or nurses. I've heard of a pill or 2 something also they just give you you can take at your own time of your choosing. It could be that I don't know. But either way im sorry you have to experience this. You have every right to feel the way you do. I lost my grandmothers many years ago it was devastating.
You just need to think perhaps, she's old, she's suffering from a terminal disease, and she's doing what she thinks is best. I guess you should try to respect her wishes.
It may help you if you can to say your goodbyes and that you love her. And know she loves you and to try to honor her memory later on. If you have time i would talk to her as much as possible before then. About her life, memories just anything. Because after Tuesday you won't be able to in this life anyway. Make the most of the time you have with her. Like the other person said i wouldn't go to school that day. Take time for yourself.
ReplyThis is a tough situation and I've been through it with my uncle. The way I handled it was to keep reminding myself that it's his life and he knows it better than anyone. If his suffering was so great that he decided to end his life, who am I to judge. So I began to follow his lead and see it as a good thing. He didn't want us to be sad but to celebrate that his pain was over. With that in mind I was able to handle his passing.
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