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I am 25 and I've never had a romantic relationship properly. I'm a woman and I'm attracted to other women.
I used to go clubbing quite a lot when I was about 20 and I kissed a few people when I was drunk. I went on a date with a girl and we kissed because we were both kinda drunk and she directly asked me to kiss her and I wasn't that into her but it was easier to kiss her than to not. But because I wasn't that interested in her we didn't have a second date. I felt like I was in love with this girl and I had so many opportunities to ask her out or tel her I liked her but I never could do it and eventually she found someone else. I also had a very close friend who we basically had admitted that we liked eachother but we never kissed or did anything more than holding hands, everyone thought we were a couple because of how we were together and we both knew that and we would like share a bed when we went to our friends houseparties and we would cuddle but only if we were very drunk. But I didn't have really strong feelings for her but at the time I did want a romantic and physical relationship with her because I knew she liked me and I did like her also just not as much as the girl who I felt I was in love with. I grew up in a strict Catholic household and I used to be very insecure, im not so much now and I'm much better with intimacy but I feel like I dont know how people get into relationships. The idea of a first kiss to me isn't a pleasant idea really but id want to skip that stage and just be comfortable enough to kiss someone without the awkwardness of a first kiss. I used to be super awkward talking about sex and I'd hate when people asked me about sex or even if the topic came up wih the people around me I'd want to change the topic as soon as possible. I just moved to a new town and I've made new friends and they think I've had relationships before so they don't view me in this way but In the past so many friends have said to me 'I can't imagine you in a relationship with someone' and I don't really know why but also I know what they mean. I know that people are attracted to me but also I won't be young and attractive forever and I just need to get over this fear. I also had counselling before but i couldnt bring myself to discuss it with my counsellor. I dont really know why I'm saying all this but feel free to comment. I'm just kind of Venting
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I honestly have nothing girly. I wish I could tell you something. Maybe try writing what you think on paper, maybe that's a way you can talk about it. Idk.
ReplyIts clear that you are at a certain place in your life with intimacy that is not caused by or even influenced by your sexual orientation. Just continue to be yourself, love yourself, accept how you are right now and the way that you will certainly change. Feel that way about others if you can, as well.
You are and will be quite OK.
ReplyIn my humble opinion based on observation and experience - intimacy is between 2 people in a committed relationship who love each other based on trust and respect. Apart from that, any type of sexual act between 2 or more people is just lust. Intimacy is not to be feared since it is based on love. Best of luck.
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1 Thessalonians 5:11
Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.
Mark 12:28-31
And Christ Jesus said the 2 greatest commandments are:
Love God first and foremost.
Love your fellow-being as you love yourself.
From following or not following these, all good or evil cascades, respectively.
Love...that powerful, invisible force that cannot be denied; even atheists live and die by it.
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