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The Most Delicate of Bonds
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Every relation that we have stems from some kind of a need. Some sort of emotional deprivation creates room for all our relationships. Your parents are essential when you are a child, your spouse is an essential for your intimate needs and your friends are essential for needs of a social life. These needs slowly translate into love and affection. But what if there was a relationship that didn’t spring from need or necessity, a relation that was just simply there. Would it be stronger than those of necessity or weaker? Perhaps weaker and more breakable. The simple truth is when we don’t require something for survival, it is often treated as a disposable object. Something to be enjoyed until the fun lasts. This is the sort of relation siblings share. We are siblings simply because we are in the same household. A relation that is a coincidence of birth. You have the same parents and therefore you are related, no matter how different your personalities might be, you are siblings. There is no need for a sibling. It’s a relation that exists with no bonds of necessity on either side but unlike friends, there was no choice given in this relation. Sadly, unlike friends you have to live with a sibling; a friend only witnesses what you allow of yourself, your sibling (the one you don’t choose) sees all of you. This relationship exists and relies on chance; if you like one another then it would result into something long lasting otherwise until your bonds of necessity hold you together. Doesn’t that make it the saddest of relationships? The most unnecessary one? The littlest of issues could make you hate one another because there is no reason for extra effort. Not having the need of another and still maintaining that relationship is the best example of patience to some. Despite having the most opposite of personalities, the worst of arguments, and still managing not to be bitter about the person is difficult and often unachievable which is why many sibling bonds severe after the death of a parents.
We’re not at an age of repairing things, we’re in the age of replacement. When something doesn’t work out, we’re advised to replace it. Everything has a better, updated version so why attach ourselves to something that displeases us? Patience is rarely counselled and self-indulgence, defensiveness has become the motto of life. A lifestyle where the difference between patience and weakness is very little and there exists a right and a wrong in every issue, relationships suffer. Familial ties have become archaic and sibling bonds, whose only sense of identity is familial ties, is the first out the window.
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