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I am curently in collage and never had a gf, and i am puting a lot of effort in to be more social and meet girls....with berely any results to show.
It feels like the concept of meating girls is, at least where i live completly fucked in every posible way. it feels like there is simply no good way to meet someone. Prety much wherever i look, if you are an average or above avarage guy you simply are treated like you arent worthy to live on this earth. Even those guys who are buff ,loud , cocky athletes have a hard time sometimes meeting new girls becouse they just push away anyone who gets close and isnt a 10/10. I try to work on my looks and confidence, and while i have made a lot of progress, i will never be on the level of most of these guys. maybe a bit abouve avarage at best.
Like i have tried every posible way imaginable to maybe meet girls, even just as friends. And you hear people online saying how easy it is and how it all just hapens automaticly, but when i try it, the reality is as far away as posible from what people experienced. Like i am fine with rejection but its just driving me insane how few opertunities i even get to meet girls, and the once i get i either fuck up or get ignored.
Going to clubs and bars?- only very few want to meet people, and the ones that do, go for the most atractive guys. or just form these circles of 10 girls that even the most confident guys dont get let in. i am sick of wasting money and sleep going there and 80% of the time not even geting to talk to a girl
Going to events and hobby clases to meet girls? -there are almost none where i live (eastern european shithole), and the rere ones where men and women could meet i either emberese myself, the most i have achieved is mada aquantences with a few girls, so it miiiiiight work.
collage and work?- its a good way, but in enginering there are no girls.....
aproaching in public while waiting?- i usualy dont have the confidence for it, but i cant imagine it going well considering even in good place to meet, i cant get anyhere.
meting through comon friends?- i am a bit intorvert, so i dont have a huge number of friends, but the ones i do, never want or cant bring a girl with them (and yes i asked many times)
online dating?- straight up doesnt work, it jsut makes it easier for the top 10% of guys to get 90% of girls. I have had tinder for a year now and maybe got 15 matches and 4 replies. women just hate online where i live, they dont know what they want and dont want to put any effort in...
I might seem like a needy beta faggot, and i know being in a relationship doesnt define a person, but last night the frustration just got to me and i am so sick and fucking tired seeing all these great girls who are single and making themselfs aproachable, but when you actualy try it they are all just antisocial cunts...
Its like geting a cake presented in front of you and told " just take the cake, its easy, you just have to put in a litle bit of effort" and once you put in the effort, they jsut take the cake in front of you and punch you in the face for trying, and then repeting it.
I realy need some help here, i am all out of ideas and at this point i only see 2 options: meeting women gets easier when i turn past 25, or i die forever alone....
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Its alright dude you will find her in the end.
Id recommend Joining clubs and groups around town to meet people
Replywell thats the fuckign problem, there are no groups or clubs, at least nothign for people below 50, there are sport groups, but i suck so bad i would just emberece myself, plus i hate them
ReplyIf you are in college, perhaps this is the time to focus on academics so that you can be successful in life and not embarrass yourself in the future. What do you want to do with your life? Surely that's more than just finding a girlfriend - and if it's not, what are you doing in college? Focus on your life goals and you'll find the right person to share your time with.
Replyi can get by in colage np, only focusing on your grades without making any friends is a terible way to waste your collage years. The problem is i highly doubt that focusing only on my job will ever put me in a position to even talk with a woman. and if i just pasivly wait for "the right one to come" nothing will happen, since the guy is suposed to make all the effort
ReplyTrust me dude, you need to focus on your education and on your own growth and change.
ReplyI don’t want to be rude but you said you can get by in college but I don’t think you realize how important more than just getting by is. Talk to people of course, make friends and enjoy yourself. But find a balance. This is the part I don’t want to be rude about because I know it could be a disorder but you aren’t worried about college because you can just get by...however, your spelling is extremely bad. I’d focus on academic and spelling, rather than a girlfriend because academics will get you a good job and form your future. Then the girlfriend will happen at the right time.
ReplyWhere to begin, where to begin ...
So women who reject you are "all just antisocial cunts" - interesting. But before they reject you, they're "great girls."
And "needy beta faggot" - well, I don't know if anyone ever told you this but using derogatory language towards any group really isn't a turn on to women. It will NOT result in you looking attractive.
Tinder isn't about finding relationships, it's about finding hook-ups.
And if you want to be attractive to the opposite gender (as well as to potential employers), yes, the other persons responding had it right. Now is the time to focus on academics - perhaps while you work with a life coach.
ReplyYou actually just called girls who reject you "antisocial cunts" -copied straight from your post, they are "great girls who are single" but when they reject you they are "antisocial cunts." And your cake analogy, well, it's more than a little scary. You're right - and again, copied straight from your post - you "realy need some help here." You need to work on YOU, dude.
Replyhuh - interesting. You don't like reality-based responses, and don't like people to use your own words to help you see what you're doing and why you're struggling.
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