10 Tips to Handle Relationship Insecurities

Are insecurities affecting your relationship? If you want to sustain a happy, healthy, bond with someone you need to learn how to effectively manage your self doubts. Here are 10 tips provided by Aaron Marino of alpha m. to help you cope with your relationship insecurity.

1) Don't judge your current relationship based on past relationship: They are two completely different situations and if you make the current person pay for the issues of a previously failed relationship, you are hurting your chances of things working out differently for the better this time.

2) Don't confuse imagination with reality: It’s difficult not to wonder what your significant is doing when they aren’t around or responding, but you can’t read too far into everything. Do your best to be honest with each other from the start, and communicate your feelings openly. When your mind wants to play tricks on you and lead you down a path of making up stories in your head about what the other person ‘might’ be doing, don’t let it!

3) Stop trying to mind read: Unless you have telepathic abilities, you need to ask instead of assume.

4) Once you ask, don't keep asking: If something seems off you need to communicate this with the other person. If they say things are okay you need to trust your gut and not continue to pester them about it.

5) Your relationship needs room to breathe: Depending on another person entirely for your happiness is not sustainable, and will most likely result in things not working out. As long as you can both learn to be content and happy on your own apart from each other, this will strengthen your bond when you’re together.

6) Relationships aren't always roses and puppies: The honeymoon stage of all relationships will come to an end eventually. When it does you need to be aware that it’s okay not to be walking on air together 24/7. Relationships have ebbs and flows. When a disagreement occurs, which it will, don’t panic and break things off at the first sign of hardship. Have faith that everything will always work itself out exactly how it’s supposed to. If it turns out you two are not meant to be together, that’s okay! Take something positive away from both the good and bad times spent together and apply what you’ve learned in your next relationship.

7) Do not snoop. I repeat, do not snoop: A lack of trust in a relationship is a deal breaker. If you feel like there is something fishy going on, communicate with your significant other and ask them. Things will reveal themselves if there are actually any shady shenanigans going on.

8) Go with your gut: Trust your instincts, simple as that. They are usually right. If you’ve given a relationship your best shot and you still feel like things just aren’t clicking, you know best. Assuming you get married someday and don’t get divorced, only one relationship in your entire life will ever end happily ever after. Think about that or a second! All the others are meant to be learning experiences to ultimately show you what you’re looking for and what you deserve in a partner.

9) You are responsible for your happiness and only your happiness: Put another way; you are not responsible for your partner’s happiness either.

10) Relationships are supposed to feel good and you should feel better when you're with this person: Ideally you should both help each other become the best versions of yourselves while dating. If you reach a point where you don’t feel better together and that things have become toxic, it’s probably time to bid adieu and move on.

Although Aaron closes the video by addressing males specifically, these tips apply to everyone in any sort of relationship. Give these a genuine try and hopefully you’ll start to see your insecurities dwindle bit by bit with time