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Hey, so I'm just gonna jump the gun here and hope somebody reads this and offers some advice.
My dad is going to resign from his job because of his health problems and my mom has been pushing me to get a job so I could help with the finances. We're a big family and although my older sister is already working, we're still struggling when it comes to money.
I do want to get a job and help my family. But my problem is, I don't have the courage to apply and if I ever do get one, I'm not confident that I could do it well. I've never had a job before and I'm not sure I'm prepared for it. This may come off as spoiled but I've never experienced any real hardships in my entire life. I've lived in my life in a bubble until I went to college and even now, I'm still having trouble coping with my surroundings and socializing with people. I've never ventured outside of my comfort zone and I'm afraid of stepping outside it.
People would say that it's gonna be okay as long as I "take the first step". But it's not that easy. For me, taking the first step into the unknown is the single most terrifying thing I will ever do. I don't like going out there with no assurances about what will happen or what am I supposed to do. Heck, I don't even like going to unfamiliar places. For me, going somewhere unfamiliar is like being stuck in a dark alley and having no idea which way to go. It's scary and frightening and I just want to run or break down and cry. The same goes for meeting new people. I'm an awkward person. I don't know how to make small talk, much less hold a full conversation, and I have no idea how to read people's expressions. I'm scared that I'll say or do the wrong things and make a complete fool out of myself. That's how pathetic I am.
So yeah, I have no idea what to do with myself. I wish I had the courage and confidence to go out of my comfort zone. But the truth is I'm a spineless idiot who can barely make decisions for herself. The prospect of trying something new is terrifying for me, and I'm scared that I'll never grow out of this and be an independent adult.
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ReplyI know it won't be easy. It never is. But if you're scared about screwing up when you get a job, don't. Usually, the business will teach you how to do the job they've given you be it at a store, a factory, even a mortgage company. I've applied for all but I didn't get it. But my friends who did told me how it works.
You know what they say: "The journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step."
And that step won't be easy. But once you take it, the following steps with be a piece of cake.
ReplyToday I applied for my first job. This was very scary for me since I’m afraid of what I’m getting into. Although I am scared I know that I can always quit or even loose contact with them after they get my application. Now that I have simply applied I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders.
ReplyIf you put it that way, I guess I do have some options if things go wrong. This gave me a bit of courage. Thank you very much. I'm happy for you and I hope you do well on your job! :)
ReplyThis is the sort of thing that a good therapist can be really helpful with... worth looking into.
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