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So I recently came out as trans to my close friends and family. I told my two closest friends because I thought I could trust them. They are twins, so let's call the Twin A and Twin B for the sake of anonymity. After I came out to them and specifically told them to ask me before they tell other people, Twin A goes and tells their extremely religious and transphobic parents that I'm trans, WITHOUT PERMISSION. But the thing was, they never asked me or told me they did this(I'll explain further on). Twin B and I were talking and Twin B came out to me as genderfluid. Twin B asked about binding and i told them that I would start binding soon, and I would tell them how it goes. Twin A overhears our conversation and tells her parents that's aim binding, again without my permission. Twin B said this happened a month ago and just now found out. Twin B doesn't feel safe being out because of this and the whole situation is screwed up. I need some help.
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That just makes me want to slap twin A-hole and have a serious talk with them. You're not in the wrong and I'm sorry you're struggling through something so sensitive. Just don't let them win by scaring you into a sort of conformity or silence. Be yourself :)
ReplyThank you (I kind of want to slap them too). I just sent them an email telling them how I feel about what they did, so that might help the situation? Or it might make it worse, I don't know.
ReplyIn all truth you're just being open with them about your feelings on the matter, and the A-hole has already done their damage. Sending the email is a great way to work through your own feelings, so regardless of how they take it, it's already helped.
ReplyTrue. Again, thank you for talking me through this. It really helped :)
ReplyNot a problem, and good luck with your transition :)
ReplyThere is no problem being trans. If twin A was really a true friend of yours he/she should have considered how you feel. Eves dropping on other peoples conversation is not okay more so talking about them to other people (even if it was their parents) since it is a very serious matter. Don't let those kind of people bother you my dear, because at the end of the day what matters is that you are happy and you do not step on other people. 😘
ReplyIt's to be expected - when you tell others private information, it will get out. That's why private information is kept private until you're ready for it to become public information.
It doesn't sound like you need some help. It sounds like the twins might need some help with their family, but their problems aren't yours.
Frustrating and hurtful that your secret was told but that's the risk you take every time you choose to share a secret. But if that is who you really are, why keep it a secret? Just something to think about.
Replyi am trans, i can help with anything you need advice on
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