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I am attracted to my best friend, not because of how he looks but because of his wonderful, protective and caring and honest character. What do I do? We basically look at each other as siblings. Even though both of us secretly love each other, we are just too afraid to admit it and too afraid that if we actually talk about our feelings towards each other, we would ruin our friendship. What do I do? How do I know if I love him as a brother or more than that?
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Tell him.
ReplyThe thing is, that eventhough there is a chance that if you tell it, then it might ruin your friendship, but there is also a chance, that if you don't tell him, it might ruin it aswell.
I think that being honest is a good way to handle this. Just talking about it. If you are such good friends, and this thing wories you, then you should talk about it with him.
You aren't actually sure about how you feel, so it's not like confessing, it's more like making things between you two clear. Even if at the end it is just purely friendship, this shouldn't be something that drives you apart.
However, if you do have some other feelings for each other, this might actually help you to remain friends. Just imagine, how would it feel to find out, that you do actually love him, after he found someone else. Or being unable to start a relationship with someone else, because you aren't sure about what's between the two of you. And these things are true for the other way around as well, and I think that these things might damage your friendship more, than talking about your feelings.
So the question is:
Can you accept that there won't be anything, even if there might be? - If so, then do so, and don't talk about this with him.
However, if you don't want to give up the chance, to have something more than just friendship, then I don't see any other way: you have to talk about it with him.
ReplyI am not in love with anyone least of all my friend!
I would be very happy if he was to find someone else!
I would then remove myself because I wouldn't want his new partner to question herself for me still being in the picture!
I would wish them both well! :)
ReplyI've been in your shoes before and one day I asked my best friend out and she said yes. But the thing is if it doesn't work out your friendship will be ruined cause u could never look at them the same way. But the choice is up to u
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