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It has been 3 years since we never communicated.
He blocked me and unblocked me, and reading and not reading my messages.
It was a confusing cycle for 3 years and I always got a private number calling me once in a year lol
It was just last year when I finally decided that I cannot continue my life like this and finally forget the guy.
One day around June this year, my best friend was sending him an sms just to know if he'll reply out of curiosity with my presence.
And boomed! He replied.
Then he kept on asking how I was and stuff.
He suddenly sent me a message in Whatsapp and we exchange messages until now.
We confessed that we still like each other ever since we last talked.
We both became mature and successful in our careers.
And to my surprise, just like me, he admitted that he always thinks about me every day for the last 3 years.
He exclaimed one day that the reason he replied to my best friend is that he wanted a closure so that he can give up hoping that I have feelings for him.
Too bad... I frankly told him I still have feelings for him.
He explained that tried engaging himself with other women but in the end, it didn't work.
And he said it was my fault because I kept on visiting his mind lol
He even admitted that all those time, he cannot forgive himself up until now for what he has done- leaving me in silence.
And he doesn't want to hurt me again, so we came to a conclusion to be just friends since we both can't commit to a relationship for now.
He was afraid for the idea of "Just friends" because one day we might hurt each other more if we will keep on holding on.
But I don't know... I told him to not think of tomorrow and think of now.
Enjoy the time we give to each other while achieving our dreams.
Given, we are career driven individuals.
We just inspire each other every day and wherever this will lead, I hope everything will be okay.
I really don't know. I am honestly afraid that we ended up friends or he will ghost away again.
But I don't wanna regret again not telling what I really want to say like before.
So whatever already!!!!
Hahahahahha I need advice. ^_^
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Hmmm this is a sticky situation
Just follow what your heart tells u no matter how cheesy this might sound. But I know how it is to be in the situation cause u don’t want to go back to square one and be all heartbroken. At the same time u guys could be soul mates, u know? Give him a second chance and I hope everything turns out good
ReplyI know right? >.<
Hahahaha I see, okay.... Yes, because it was really devastating like I kept on trying to convince myself with certain possibilities to the point of blaming myself why it went wrong and why he just ghosted. Well, he admitted that he ghosted because he thought I just thought of him as a friend and he gave up trying to tell me how he feels about me.
Now that I am ready to commit, he's the one who is not open to commitment so I am just going with the flow because he doesn't want to hurt me again. Soul mates? I don't know. Well, we are so far from each other but we eat foods like a donut on exact the same time, like 4 pm in here and 4 pm at his time without telling each other until I sent him the pic. He lives in the future lol
I am giving him a chance but I think he is afraid to give himself a chance because he is afraid to hurt me and not being able to be the guy that I need omg hahaha
ReplyIf I was in your “crushes” shoes I would feel the same way he does. That shows that u mean the world to him and that he really cares about u. Maybe u just need some time to figure all this out. To me he sounds like a nice guy cause he cares for u soooo much. Anyways maybe just give him some time, idk.
ReplyI see. I understand. :) He is nice and he respects me too. Hahaha okay, I will. Thank you so much for your advice. I am truly grateful. Have a nice day! ^_^
ReplyNo problem I’ll be here if u need to talk
ReplyI have a question.
Recently he started to reply late or read my messages and reply hours after. I don't know what this means, but he has done this to me before so I am quite troubled since it I'm recalling the past again.
Can you help me why he is doing this again? :(
ReplyI have a question.
Recently he started to reply late or read my messages and reply hours after. I don't know what this means, but he has done this to me before so I am quite troubled since it I'm recalling the past again.
Can you help me why he is doing this again? :(
ReplyOkayyyyyyy
So not gonna lie when I was in a relationship I did this cause I was lazy, but your crush could be busy or be doing other things
But I’m not sure he could just be lazy like me
My ex told me that sometimes she would respond in her head (idk why) and forget to actually type it out. But idk it shouldn’t be nothing bad
ReplyOoohhhh I see... because replying really late like hours or days was the start until he ghosted so I can't help thinking if he is planning to do that again. :(
You know? At least I'll be able to ready myself and not get hurt again. I really don't know hahaha
Hahahaha omg really? Well, because given there was a history I can't help but protect myself, you know? It was really hard, especially that he is far and this is the first time I am really opening my walls for a guy. >.<
ReplyHe sounds like a good guy but maybe he might need some time to himself?
Maybe it’s the things u say to him that makes him not wanna answer cause it brings back good memories and he doesn’t want to mess it up.
ReplyI see... Okay. I have already told him that if he isn't ready to commit, then don't. He should not force himself into something he isn't sure lol
Uuhhmmm... I am more supportive, understanding and patient on him than before actually. He said I am nicer than before because I was a bit meaner 3 years ago lol
Actually, we just talk random things like work, tea, and stuff and he just goes silent for hours then shift topic like if I am home already and I was like, "Huh? What is this guy up to?" XD
He is really unpredictable than before which make me more guarded for any possibilities. :3
ReplyDon’t worry it just will take time and keep being u
ReplyI see. Sorry for asking too much questions because I haven't been in a relationship #superstrictparents
So, I really have no idea why he is acting like that. May I know why it "will take time"? For what? And is he being timid nowadays has a correlation with that?
I am being me... #roseversion2.0
ReplyI see. Sorry for asking too much questions because I haven't been in a relationship #superstrictparents
So, I really have no idea why he is acting like that. May I know why it "will take time"? For what? And is he being timid nowadays has a correlation with that?
I am being me... #roseversion2.0
ReplyWhen I say it will take time i mean that it’ll take some time for him to get more comfortable around u and I guess be more happy
I don’t mind if u ask a lot of questions so ask me as many as u want
ReplyI see... Okay, I understand. 😊
Thank you! If ever I have further questions, I'll ask you soon. 😎👍
Reply😊
ReplyI have a question.
I just somehow realize that it has been 3 days already since he is doing this... He keeps on asking me how my day was or my work but when I ask about his, he just seenzoned me when a month before he kept on updating me about his life.
Why sudden drawback? I'm confused. I don't know how to react with this. Somehow it makes me think that he is trying to do what he has done before and ghost again. I don't know... 😔
ReplyI got a idea ask if u could either FaceTime him or just go out to talk and see what he says. If he says yes then talk about whatever u want but if he says no then ask him why or when u guys can
ReplyHe said no. He said he had thought about it and he wants me to move on and be happy rather than wait for him and be miserable.
I've asked him if that's what he really wants, he said no that half of him wants to let me go but half of him wants to hold on.
ReplyI see where he’s coming from cause that’s how I feel with my ex.
Tell him that everyone deserves a second chance and that this relationship could maybe work
But idk cause in my situation all I want is to see my ex happy but I also don’t want to make her sad cause that’ll just make me sad
Idk what to do for this one
ReplyHe just blocked me lol
It's so hard to understand someone who isn't willing to share what he really wants to say. I mean, I'm not a fortune teller nor a pyschic. I can't read his mind, especially now that's he's so far. Idk 😑
ReplyMaybe he needs some time to himself
ReplyHe unblocked me now lol
Here we are again 😂😂😂
Any suggestions? 😅
ReplyDang he’s confusing
Ummmmmm keep talking to him like normal and see where it goes from there?
Reply😂😂😂 Ikr?
Hahaha okay. 😎👍
I'll ask you advice if he is here and there again 😅
ReplyAlright
Hope everything works out
ReplyAfter he unlocked me, he said, "I'm just having issues that I'm trying to deal".
Actually, since we are just friends now, I tell him things that aren't in my routine. Like, going to a fam reunion and also receiving love letters from guys at work. He was like, "You'll be okay :*" Then blocked me after lol
Right now, he still seems distant, and his messages became 1 line from 3-5 lines before. Why is he like that?
I already told him that he could tell me everything no matter how ugly it is. I will not judge him and I will try to understand him. In which he did try to open up and after a few exchanges, he suddenly said, "Enough of my problems" and became distant again. Like, " Bruh! -.-"
How come he opens up more to my girl best friend even told her he likes me but he isn't telling me where he works and what he does, especially that he hasn't been sleeping for 3 days straight? How come he tells her almost everything about him but he tells me half only of what he told my best friend? How come he confessed to her that he likes me but he isn't sharing any? I feel so sad... How come he trusted her more than me? :'(
ReplyHe probably tells your friend more than he tells u cause he doesn’t want u to worry about him
And if he likes u idk why he wouldn’t keep trying to talk to u. Maybe he’s depressed so that’s why and also why he can’t sleep. And maybe he’s only doing 1 line answers cause he pessimistic and knows that if he talks to u somewhere down the line he might lose it all
ReplyBut... Why will he tell my girl best friend instead? It honestly makes me jealous, you know? Like, my mind goes, "So, you want her to take care of you more than me?" >.<
Me too! I wonder why... He kept on asking how I am like he hasn't asked me last night. When I ask him how is he, he just seen my message or make another topic. Actually, he works in a research company so I do understand that he has a quota of reports that he needs to do and that's why he has no sleep sometimes. Like, he really can tell me, you know? Why tell my best friend instead? -.-
Even if he will tell me he has just committed drugs, I will not judge him and try to understand him why he did that. I also wanna know how is he and not just about me. :( What do you mean, "he might lose it all"? I don't get it. (@.@)
ReplyBy me saying he might lose it all is he might know in the back of his mind that he’s gonna lose u again somewhere down the road
and he doesn’t want that pain anymore.
Idk what else to say cause I’m sorta in your situation
I think he might be pushing u away cause he doesn’t want u to worry about him
I’m also pessimistic so idk about him
ReplyI see... I understand now.
I also don't want that pain anymore. Besides, he was the one who ghosted lol
I see... how are you btw, bruh?
But, I care for him >.<
Oooohhh... well, you can share to me too and also ask me questions. I will answer with full honesty. ^_^
ReplyIf u like him that much then go for him
For me I gave up trying to get back together with my ex cause I know I’ll probably mess things up and then I’ll be all heartbroken. I’m like u in a way cause I will basically do anything to make them happy even if it takes a five minute conversation. But the thing that always bugs me is what’s the thing another person has that I don’t? I guess I wasn’t enough for her and didn’t try hard enough
ReplyI am taking my chances so that my feelings are conveyed straight to him without being misunderstood like before. ^_^
Don't you wanna give it a chance? Give yourself a chance? Awwee I see. What do you mean? Who broke it off btw? She already has a bf now? Didn't try hard enough? How come you say so? (O.O)
ReplyI don’t wanna try anymore cause I can’t be bothered to.theres no point to give myself a chance if I’ll mess it up. What I mean by just talking to her for 5 minutes it’s cause she has anxiety that could get really bad so I want to do anything in my power to make her feel better. She broke up with me and no she doesn’t have a bf (not that I know of). I feel like i didn’t give it my all and it’s all my fault.
ReplyI see. Don't blame yourself, dude. You have tried anything in your power to make her feel better. You see? My best friend is also having anxiety attacks sometimes. Her boyfriend also tried his best to comfort her but he wasn't enough. She also needs someone "a girl best friend" to comfort and understand her. Studies have proven that girls/women cannot surpass emotional challenges if they don't have girl best friends. There's just something in a girl that comforts with a healing advice or touch.
I see... I guess you need to give her time. She needs to fix herself first and what she really wants. There are just things that we cannot fix. Well, as they said, "You cannot fix a broken person. They are the ones who can only fix themselves."
Well, you can try to ask her, you know? Like how is she doing? But idk if you don't want to, that's your choice. Who knows she's single because she is waiting for you to contact her. How many months/years has it been? How old are you two btw?
ReplyI see. Don't blame yourself, dude. You have tried anything in your power to make her feel better. You see? My best friend is also having anxiety attacks sometimes. Her boyfriend also tried his best to comfort her but he wasn't enough. She also needs someone "a girl best friend" to comfort and understand her. Studies have proven that girls/women cannot surpass emotional challenges if they don't have girl best friends. There's just something in a girl that comforts with a healing advice or touch.
I see... I guess you need to give her time. She needs to fix herself first and what she really wants. There are just things that we cannot fix. Well, as they said, "You cannot fix a broken person. They are the ones who can only fix themselves."
Well, you can try to ask her, you know? Like how is she doing? But idk if you don't want to, that's your choice. Who knows she's single because she is waiting for you to contact her. How many months/years has it been? How old are you two btw?
ReplyI guess I get it
I think it’s been 1 month since we talked which is a long time since we used to talk every single day even when we broke up. Idk if I need to mention this but I kept telling her oh u wanna talk but she kept saying she was busy. Until one day she text me and said one of her guy friends told her to stop talking to me cause it would be better but she decided for herself it was a bad idea cause we are such good friends
ReplyI realized when she told me this that we could’ve never talked again and that crushed me so I gave up
ReplyOmg... well, I guess for the meantime it is good for you two not to talk to each other, especially if she still has this anxiety issues with her.
Who knows... If you two are for each other, one day your paths will collide or the universe will make you two talk again.
But you know? There's no harm in asking how she is. Who knows... just like me before, I was just waiting and hoping he'll send me a message to check how I am. And in my mind, I told myself, "If that time comes, I will be honest with him." ^_^
ReplyI guess she still loves you... (This is from a girl's perspective). But since you two broke up, she is trying to make herself busy. I think the reason she broke up with you is that she thinks she is dragging you down with her because of her anxiety issues. She is might have thought that sooner or later you'll get feed up with her and leave her. Which she thinks might hurt her more, so she initiated the move first.
And for her one guy friend, maybe she told him that she wanna move on but she's still talking to you that's why he told her to stop talking to you since talking to you will not make her move on. Or, the other side is, he might like her.
ReplyThanks for the advice
Anywayyyyyss enough about me how’s your situation going
ReplyActually I need some advice
So a while back my ex gave me these stuffed animals to remind them of her and cause we had a inside joke. I have them on my bed but idk if I should put them away cause they remind me of her. But at the same time they comfort me u know? And I can’t throw them out cause I promise her I wouldn’t and I’ll keep it for as long as I could
P.S.
She gave me a 🐼 and 🐻 cause I used to always tease her and make fun of her and used 🐼🐻 to get me out of the situation cause they are cute. Weird? Idk
Reply☺ As a man, you should keep the promise you have made no matter what. Though it is hard, don't throw the stuff toys away. Also, since they comfort you, I suggest you keep them. But if it's becoming too hard for you to move on, you can keep them inside your closet. Just don't throw them away. I think she gave you those because you mean a lot to her.
Hahaha you're weird, dude. But it's cute. She really likes you, but her fears and insecurities ate her I guess that's why. Give her some time to sort out her thoughts. Who knows... A year or two, the universe will bring you together again. 😁👍
And with regard between me and J, I don't know where are we two heading. Right now he feels so down and he wanna deal with his problems alone so yeah. I'm giving him his time lol 😂😂😂
ReplyThanks for the advice I think that’s all for now
ReplyDude... is it really normal for a guy to depreciate his attention? Like, he doesn't say good morning already. And lately, I feel like I am the one who sends the last message and also the first one to send a message the next day.
I don't like the situation honestly because I feel like I am asking/begging for his attention or time lol. Even though I've already told him that he can have his time, but then said he wanna talk to me. Yet, we only exchange convo like twice or thrice in a day. :( But I try to understand, you know?
I think he is making himself super busy nowadays even though it is not really necessary like he makes plans just so he cannot talk to me? (That's what I feel) And he complains that he is very busy.
I think we both are in the same situation right now. :'(
But I don't understand because when I ask what makes him happy, he said it is me. Then, why make himself busy and not talk to me??? :'(( Why being so unpredictable? Like treating me as the most important person and then treating me like an annoying stranger? -.-
ReplyHmmmmm
Idk if I was him I would make an effort to talk to u or something along those lines, but he doesn’t which confuses me cause he said u make him happy
Ask him in a not so mean way that he should take some time out of his day to talk to u or go on a date with u if u make him happy.
My next suggestion is either going to your mom, dad, or anyone that’s close to u and ask them what u should do
ReplyIt’s currently 1:12 AM and I just thought of something my ex used to send me these text thanking me for being there for her and being a friend/bf and those really make me feel so special.
Maybe send him a thoughtful text or something
ReplyIkr? Like, " Which is which, dude??? (@.@)"
'Cause like, "You said you make me happy but your actions speaks the opposite. -.-"
That will be hard... He is studying Masters in medicine so I don't know where am I in his list of priorities, or am I even included? But I do understand that he has no time. But how come he has time to party, go hiking, and go travel with his friends? Sometimes makes me think, "Am I a burden? If so, I will distant myself."
We are so far from each other btw- 3260 miles >.< Sad :(
They are telling me to let go and just go date one of the guys that are courting me instead because he is being shallow. One of my aunts that are studying medicine said that his course is really hard and that it's understandable that he has no time because their course is demanding too much time. And that I should let him have fun because he maybe is totally drained. Also, my aunt said that "maybe' J meant what he said that I make him happy but he just want to feel alive and living, especially with his course.
Uuugghhh... Idk hahaha why did I even like this guy at the first place? That's the question that kept on lingering in my mind right now :3
ReplyMake a list about the pros and cons about him, if there are more pros then u should keep trying to make something happen but if there’s more cons then let him go
If he keeps pushing and pushing u away it must really hurt so I’d give up on him. But easier said than done right?
Idk...☹️
ReplyI wanna help u soooo bad but I can’t I’m to depressed and I force myself to do stuff. And I don’t want u to be like me all cause of one person. I want u to maybe keep trying but I know how it feels to be pushed away even though u care for that person so bad. For me I keep trying but it never works. Just make sure u don’t end up like me
ReplyOmg! I totally understand you, dude. Actually, I've already been there- depression state. And experience being pushed away by the person you care for so much. It has been 3 years yet the hardships I have to get over him in those years was a spartan type of battlefield.
You know what I did? Even if it is like "REEEEAAAAALLLLLLLLYYY HARD" to do stuff because the only person that can make you happy makes you feel so unwanted every day and it hurts like it pierced deep within. I tried every day to divert my attention to the things that make me happy before that person came. Like, I indulged myself in arts- drawing, sketching, painting, writing poems and composing songs (which I did most of the time), etc. They made me realize little by little what I have lost and what I am missing with my life. It also reminds me of the hurt every day but I am still alive as you can notice lololooool ^_^
Every step is hard. Every day is hard. Depression has eaten me so badly that I've got suicidal, honestly. Like, I really wanna die like I feel so useless and unloved, and that I cannot live in this world anymore.
But you know what? I've tried to read a bible. And then I felt for the longest time that I am not alone and that this is just a challenge to keep me strong.
And even now my emotions are still haunting me and eager to break free from the cage where I put them. They are emotions that I describe as "ugly beasts".
How did I survive? I thought I was all alone but I am not. There's a God.
God doesn't give us challenges/battles that we cannot conquer. Most of the time, the battles make us ask, "This is just so hard, Lord. This is just too much for me."
But, do you know? A teacher/prof is silent during a test/ an exam? ^_^ So, when I feel like I can't take it anymore, that I should rather give up and chose an easier path, I tell myself, "God doesn't give you a battle you cannot win. God gives you this battle because He knows it's the right time to step up your game and come out stronger than you were before. This will be hard and you might be full of scars, tears or bleed emotionally and mentally, but you will never be the same after this battle, Rose."
The answer is: No one believes in us so much like God does to let us be in the front liner than anybody else.
To ENCOURAGE you = Joshua 1:9 English Standard Version (ESV)
"Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”
To COMFORT you = Matthew 11:28-30 New International Version (NIV)
28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”
I know you can handle this battle and any battles that will come in your way in the future. God is with you. He will be your shield, strength, your portion, your guide, your fortress, your deliverer. and your present help in times of need.
REMEMBER this always = Romans 8:31 New International Version (NIV)
More Than Conquerors
"What, then, shall we say in response to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us?"
If life puts you down into your knees, that's the right time to pray and ask God for help. Give your burden to Him and He will give you rest
People will fail you, but not God. He is always faithful to those who put their faith in Him. God cares for you so much. His Love is endless and His Grace is sufficient. ^_^
And that's how I surpass the stage of wanting to kill myself. :3
ReplyI’ve prayed to god about my problems and to have him help me out of it which he has. But I think I force this on myself cause when I was “talking” to him I told him to do whatever it takes to make a ex happy even if it means making me miserable. And I guess it’s working. But some days it’s hard to get out of bed, it’s hard to get ready in the mourning cause u know there’s nothing to look forward to. When I was still in school I couldn’t wait to go to summer cause I knew I would be talking to my ex for hours on end. Now we don’t really talk which breaks my heart. The one thing I was looking forward to is gone and I feel like it’s all my fault. I have school coming up and idk if I should talk to her or do anything with her cause I feel like I lost her. She was like a drug cause she made me so happy. Since I don’t have her anymore I don’t care what will happen to me in the future. I want to die just so the pain would go away but I know I can’t cause so many people care about me. It feels like a battle everyday. I know God is watching over me but I just feel so alone
ReplyI see. Okay, I'll do that.
Ikr? Easier said than done. :(
ReplyYup
ReplyHope everything works out for u
ReplyI don't wanna expect anymore because people are prone to err. I will just go with the flow and ask why J is acting so in and out. :)
ReplySo I text my ex about a funny story with my leadership group and she got mad cause I don’t talk to any girls/her group at school. So I’m like well I need to get to know my classmates better and bond with them. She then said why don’t u try harder with my friends. So I’m thinking to myself and told her first of all one of your friends don’t like me but the rest are cool but what are we gonna talk about. After I said this she hasn’t said anything
I was gonna say “ I don’t want to start problems but what’s the problem with talking to new people that’s not my friends?” But idk if I should say this
ReplyI think I lost her...
Idk what to do I feel like nothing and I wanna die
I don’t wanna get up in the morning I rather just die.
But I can’t cause people care about me
Idk what to do...
ReplyShe was like my drug, she made me happy
Now I’m off it and I’m just really depressed and pessimistic
Is it bad that I would care if I died? Just me?
ReplyOooohhh... I think she just wants you to get closer to her friends. Maybe because "some" of them don't like you for her or whatnot that's why she wants you to talk more to her group of friends.
But I really don't see any wrong about you talking to your classmates and bond with them. I think she is threatened. Like, maybe she feels that if you bond more with your groupmates, you might want their presence and worst case scenario might get to like one of them (like a gal) and move on. Stuff like that is inevitable if she still likes you. ^_^
And this reply, “I don’t want to start problems but what’s the problem with talking to new people that’s not my friends?”. Is not bad at all. But yeah... she might not reply or whatnot. :3
ReplyYeah she didn’t reply to the text
But if it makes her happy to get rid of me I’m fine with it
ReplyI don’t feel right in the head
I think I might end it
ReplyI see. Actually, with your reply given that she still likes you, is telling her (from a gal's perspective), "What's the problem with talking to them? You're not my gf anymore to tell me what to do and not." 😅 That's the thought that she understood and she then tell herself, "Yeah... You're not my bf anymore. Do what you want. Idc." But didn't told you rather seenzoned you since she's aware that you aren't hers anymore and she has no right to tell you what to do and not. 😅😅😅
She doesn't want to get rid of you. I guess she's just kind of convinced to break up to you if given that she's thinking that you'll get fed up of her and some of her friends don't like you for her.
Above mentioned are just assumptions/possibilities. I'm still not sure if those are the ideas she has. :3
ReplyIdc anymore I rather just be alone
ReplyFuck school is coming up and I will have to see her again
ReplyShe’s not answering any of my text should I say is everything ok between us
ReplyOk so I said that and she was like so now you’re trying to make things better when school is going to start
So I said every time I say u wanna talk you’re always busy
So she said she really was busy and it’s cool that I think so highly of her (idk what that last part is for)
Finally I just said I guess we haven’t found time to talk
And that’s it she hasn’t said anything
ReplyOops forgot to login
ReplyHahahahahahaha omooo. Just say what's on your mind at least you have made yourself clear for her to understand.
For now, give her some time. She's probably assessing what to do.
ReplyOooohhh she reasons out like J, the boy that came back. Is she a Pisces? She's sooo confusing (@.@)
That's right. Say what you want to say so that there will be no regrets and for her to realize her part.
I think the last part means that she is pleased that you respect her, especially her situation and try to understand it.
That's right, dude! Say it!!!
Up until now she hasn't replied? -.- Hhhmmmm
ReplyI think she hates me or something
ReplyNah... she doesn't hate you. She's just speechless and given you two broke up it's really quite awkward.
She still likes you I can see that. But I also think she wants you to make an effort.
ReplyI give up...
I rather be sad than to be happy then to have it crushed and being sad again
I just miss the similar things we did... I miss her so much...
ReplyOmg dude... You're so Josh hahaha being pessimistic so 😅
Why not give both of you a time to explore beyond your limitations. Like, focus on yourself and loving yourself.
We really don't know what lies behind and who knows after you both are better that you two are right now, you both will find each way in each other's arms.
For now, I advise you to fell the pain and the feeling of missing her so much. You will get used to it until you are immune like me. 😂😂😂
ReplyMaybe during school shit will change
ReplyWho knows... Maybe you'll find the answer once school starts ☺ For now, concentrate on yourself. Play sports or be artsy. The better you are, the better you attract. 😁👍
ReplyHow’s everything with u?
ReplyIt seems fine I guess. Like, we treat each other friends and then more sometimes. So I guess he kept on calling me dude or bruh now to remind himself? Idk really... I'm just going with the flow now. 😂
And you? How are you now?
ReplyI’m still trying to figure out where all my classes are and trying not to get lost at school
my ex and I started talking again which is good. But in the back of my head I have a feeling I’m going to go back to step 1 with her. On the plus side it’s becoming more easier to sleep since we’ve been talking cause I don’t really have anything to worry about.
ReplyHahaha, you should. Well, that's good that you are concentrating more on yourself now. I hope everything will go well ^_^
That's good. I guess that's probably the case- back to square 1. But, if you'll gonna ask me, I think that's a good sign though. Like, you two should get to know more about each other as friends since relationships that last nowadays started with friendship. You know? Act like lovers and best friends make the relationship fun. That's great news!!! Just don't hurry things. Slowly but surely.
Hahaha! Why it seems like your situation is like mine right now? But isn't it amazing to talk to the person that you want to talk to?
Update me again! Looking forward to a progress. A little bit is okay. :) #dontrushthings
ReplyI really hate school and just want to sleep
ReplyHmmmm idk how to put this. In the back of my mind I don’t feel like myself. I want to I guess die but not really. I want to be alone but at the same time I want to talk to someone. I really don’t feel the same
ReplyOmg... nooo. Don't die oooommmmooo just tell me what you want to say no matter how dark it is. Just tell me everything. I'll not gonna judge you and will try my very best to understand you. I really do know how that felt 3 years ago. So, I'm ready to hear you out.
ReplyI don’t want to kill my self but I rather hurt be alone without having to worry about anything. I’d be ok if I could just sit in my room and listen to music all day cause I wouldn’t care.
But like I said some days I don’t feel myself. It comes in waves but I could snap out of it. Which is good but whenever I think like this, I feel like everything is my fault and why Megan (my ex) would ever want me.
In other good news, Megan and I are talking basically everyday which I love cause it’s like everything is back to normal
ReplyI really do understand you, dude. That's what I have felt way back then. And then my family thinks I have no life like I am alive but like I am not there. X'D
No... it's not your fault. If ever it is solely your fault, she will not gonna talk to you ever. But she did, didn't she? So nah... you may have done some mistakes but she already forgave you.
See??? I'm so happy for you dude. That's a really good news. I hope that will last as long as you two will keep on fighting for the both of you. Just don't rush things and always aim for what is good for the other person. In that way, you both will grow mentally, emotionally and maybe level up your relationship in a mature way. ^_^
Keep me updated okay? :)
ReplyDude... don't hate school. It will actually help you in your future career. Trust me, graduating with a good grade can lead you to a good company. But don't just settle to be an employee when you can be an employer ;) However, I do understand you since that is what I have felt before. :3
You can do it!!! School is just a piece of cake for you. Just slay your grades and you are good to go.
ReplySo recently a lot of shit happened. So Megan was having some problems like socially and mentally. So I told her to go tell her mom and talk to her about everything cause that’s what I would do. So she did this before when we were FaceTiming cause she said it’ll keep make her “comfortable.” Anyways so she talked to her mom with me sorta there and she started to cry and everything cause it was to much for her to handle. And it really broke my heart cause I realized as much as I talk to her I can’t do anything to help her. U know?
Some good news is she’s gonna she a therapist to help her which is good.
I’m just worried about her cause everything is out of my reach and I can’t do anything
ReplyI see... That's a good thing that you have advised her to go talk about her problems with her mom. Omg, so all those time she has been having a hard time. I know how you feel, dude. Like, it is really hard to see someone you care about the most cry. You wanna help that person but how? And then you feel so helpless about it.
That's really great! Hopefully, she will be fine and that she'll be better after seeing the therapist. ^_^
Well, just be there for her as much as possible. This is the phase of her life in which she will dig the pieces that broke her and face them big time. She will need someone to be there and look at her in the eyes telling her that it will be fine and you will not leave her side. And that she will be okay and will feel much better after this phase of her life. This is what you can do for her and that's the most important part any person can do for someone--- to be her refuge. ^_^
Update me further. If you have questions, don't hesitate to ask me. :)
ReplyHey... I am having a problem with J. He has been starting to ask how was my morning, my work in the afternoon and my day in the evening. I don't know what to do but I just went along and answer all his questions. However, we had a family reunion last Thursday night and when I asked how is he, he said he is tired, it was 2 hours before his sleeping time but since he is tired, I told him that he needs to rest and said, "Good night?". He just seen-zoned my message. I was thinking that maybe he wanted to talk about something or just want to talk to me but I shut him down with the word "Goodnight". I really don't know... I've tried to ask how he was yesterday but he still didn't answer my message.
Do you think I disappointed him? Did he sulk about my reply? What do I have to do? My goodness... It seems like he doesn't want to talk to me now. >.<
ReplyTbh I don’t think u disappointed him cause there wouldn’t be a reason to if u jut said goodnight. Maybe just call him to see what’s up
ReplyWell, he is very sensitive and very assuming guy so I concluded he assumed and based on his reply, "What should I be mad about?" - I know this reply... he is making me think what I did wrong. Uugghhh so girly. So, I told him, "I think you wanna talk about something but I shut you down with 'goodnight?' at 9pm in there." He then replied, "Haha it's gucci". See??? He got mad at me... he sulks just like before. Such a complicated guy. (-.-) I feel like I am the guy who needs to know what I did wrong toward my woman~~~ :3
ReplyHmmmmmm if that’s just his personality u can’t do anything about that.
But idk about his responses
ReplyWell, this is what the saying goes, "Love a person for what he/she is, not what you think you can make him/her become". :3 .<)
ReplyWell, this is what the saying goes, "Love a person for what he/she is, not what you think you can make him/her become". :3 .<)
ReplyWell, this is what the saying goes, "Love a person for what he/she is, not what you think you can make him/her become". :3
I'm not sure about my interpretation of his replies are his exact thoughts because he is not opening up. Uugghhh this is so confusing. (>.<)
ReplyMaybe give him some time to himself and just let him be alone with his thoughts
ReplyYeah... I'm currently giving him that. But, how will I deal with a situation like him sending me a message after 3 days? Should I reply? Because the last time I replied was he seen-zoned me again and I was like, "What did I do?" So I let him be and then he will reply after 2 days... Will it cause further gap if I do the same thing to him too? Like not replying and reply after 2-3 days. Because it's unfair like "I am here if you need me" type of reply but he is replying after days. And I'm like, "Where should I put myself in this situation?"
What do you think? 'Cause I really don't know what to do. He is so confusing. (@.@)
ReplyYeah I don’t get him either. I know u probably don’t want to hear this but maybe there’s someone else. Idk.
But it also depends on how he acts around other people. If he acts the same way he might be depressed or something
ReplyMy best friend also doesn't get him. Maybe... I also asked him about that, if he likes someone else. He replied, "I like you which I didn't expect that I will. And I can't give you my time given uni and work. It will be unfair to you. You deserve someone better... Even if I wanna hold on, I rather let you go so that you can be happy. And I guess I will just be happy for you. Because what makes me happy is you. I will rather let you be happy with someone else than end up being miserable with me." Idk... what should I think now hahaha
Actually, he is shutting people again. And the last time he was honest to me was when he said, "I am hurting. But I can get through this. You don't have to worry."
I told him that I am here for him and he said thanks but I will not understand. Uuuuggghhh guys' pride like my dad's. (@.@)
ReplyHe’s so sweet. I think u need to make it clear that it doesn’t matter that u guys won’t talk a lot and go on dates, cause he’s the one that makes u happy. On the other hand he’s hurting so much he doesn’t want u to see him like that. He might need to see a therapist or something so he could just get everything off his chest.
My ex hasn’t gone yet but when she does I’ll tell u how it went and if I think he should go based on her experience
ReplyHahahaha ikr? I was shocked when he said those. I didn't expect that as his answer to my question. Yes, I told him that we really don't have to talk like every time and that he makes me happy-: ">. A few minutes in a day will do since I am focusing on my career too. I also sensed that he is very considerable not to talk about his problems with me because he doesn't want to burden me or make me worry. That's the problem, he doesn't want to. He said travelling is his medicine. :3
It must have been hard for her. Okay! Please tell me so that I can help J too. Thank you so much!
ReplyIdk what’s up with my ex. Yesterday she said she was mad at me. So I said about what? She then said it’s a lot of things.
But I don’t get it we talk everyday idk what the fuck I did wrong. Today when we talked she didn’t seem herself. And I’m just really worried
ReplyAnd we’re not talking rn. It’s like every fucking month I do something wrong that I don’t even know about
ReplyDude... I honestly feel you rn. I am currently experiencing the same situation as you. J blocked me 3 days ago and I didn't know what I did wrong. I sent him an SMS but he isn't replying. (@.@)
ReplyMaybe your ex is currently on her period because women are like that, you know? Very moody during her month. Or maybe she is suffering from depression again and she didn't know how to cope it up.
I also can't tell. But the aforementioned are the two things that she is currently going through. Go offer some sweets like ice cream or chocolate. Maybe those foods can brighten her mood. Or you can buy her favourite foods. ^_^
Idk about her
I told her how can u be mad at me if we talk everyday? She said don’t even. So here I am thinking to myself wtf I talk to her more than all my friends combine in one day.
Some people tell me that I should just give her some space
ReplyHahaha well, that's how most of the women are. I guess that's a pretty good solution to reconcile the recent conversation you had with her and maybe you can get a clue.
Oh! Did you two talk about a girl? Like you're the one who opened up the topic about a girl? Like, "Hey, this girl..." ???
That can also be... Maybe she has a lot of things in her mind. ^_^
ReplyNah I didn’t talk about some random girl
ReplyIt might be because we don’t talk a lot at school, but we still talk. But I guess not a lot maybe that’s why she’s mad. Like I said we FaceTime everyday after school and we talk for hours on end which is way more than I talk to my other friends
ReplyThat can be the case. I see... I guess that's the reason why. A sudden decline on what she is used to leading her feeling irritated and doesn't wanna talk to you. I truly understand now. You should try to talk to her more often like before. Maybe her being mad at you is because you aren't spending time with her like before and she misses you so much, but because you aren't her bf, she tries to restrain herself from telling you and end up being mad at you. :3
ReplyI see, but I keep trying to reach out to her but I get nothing.
I can’t really talk to her if she’s mad at me, u know? Plus she said before there’s more reasons.
I see what u mean by me not being her bf, but it’s sorta her fault. Yeah I’ll still be there for her but not like 24/7 cause we’re not together. If she wants to get back with me she’ll at least try and reach out to me
Tomorrow if I get the chance when I go to my locker I’ll try and find her to see what’s up
ReplyActually, women are like that. Sorry :3--- The only solution is not to stop asking her what's wrong.
I know. Because I am also like that like doesn't want to talk if I am mad. Why? Because I don't wanna regret saying something stupid and irrelevant. And who knows... one of the reasons is the fact that you two aren't together and she can't be mad at you and stuff which she still ends up being mad at you.
Ikr? Hahaha women are quite complicated in some aspects depending on their pride like how big it is. And maybe that 24/7 can also be one of her reasons.
Go tell her! Ask her if she still likes you and if she still wants to be more than friends with you because you still do and don't mind getting back with her.
Oh yeah... go do that! And just ask her to be really honest with you and tell her that you want to hear her out. Don't mind being brutally honest and just say what she wants to say to you. From there, you both will make actions based on your decisions.
ReplyShe was always with her friends so we couldn’t talk
Should I text her instead?
ReplyActually idk if I should
If she gets mad at me this often is it really worth it? But I wanna try cause she’s my everything.
I’m starting to think that maybe I wasn’t good enough, maybe I fell in love with the wrong person...
ReplyDo u just wanna exchange numbers so this could be easier? We don’t have to but u know just an option
ReplyDo you mean me and you exchanging numbers? Viber or Whatsapp stuff like that?
ReplyNah nvm
ReplyOkay... but I don't mind your suggestion btw. Just tell me if you change your mind.
ReplyYou should try. At least try like 3 times and if she isn't bugging, then give her space.
You should ask her if you aren't good enough for her. Tell her that you need to know so that you will know where to stand or what's your place. Because it's really hard dude. Like trying to know where you stand in a person's life. I really feel you rn... :'(
ReplyI might ask her how she’s doing in a week or so
I know if I would actually talk to her and say am I not enough for her I would just break down. She said before I was the only person that understood her and how I was her best friend.
Behind closed doors she doesn’t know what I really do for her. I pray for her every single day and ask god to make her day just a little better and to give her strength to fight all the stuff she’s dealing with. I still kept most of the notes she gave me. And she’s the one that keeps me going. But I don’t want to say that to her just to make her feel guilty
ReplyI guess you can do that. Like checking on her once a week. In that way, you are giving her space at the same time.
Omg dude... I guess you just hold on to the last paragraph that she said to you and don't think too much about being not enough for her. For now, she is currently in a condition of fighting for herself. What she needs are your understanding of her situation.
That's right. Always pray for her because that's what she really needs right now. God can do impossible things so yeah... I know this is hard for you too and not just only her because seeing her in her current condition hurts you. Everything will pass by God's will. Just hold on for a bit.
ReplyI meant hold on on this ---> "She said before I was the only person that understood her and how I was her best friend."
ReplyI’ve been thinking and maybe I shouldn’t talk to her. Not in a bad way but if I reach out to her and I get no response then there’s no point to say anything to her
ReplyWell, that's up to you. It's really hard to make decisions with your situation rn, dude. But if that's your plan, then I guess giving her space will make her think about things. Idk... just do what you feel like doing.
With regard to your option, here's my WhatsApp number: +639260479197
ReplyI think there’s so many comments it can’t save the recent ones
ReplyIndeed. So, where else can we talk?
ReplyHmmmmmmm
ReplyThere’s this app called kik
ReplyMy username is PleaseDontDisturb
ReplyDude, I have one too! My username is- rosedear123. I'll send you a message. 😎👍
ReplyI am taking my chances so that my feelings are conveyed straight to him without being misunderstood like before. ^_^
Don't you wanna give it a chance? Give yourself a chance? Awwee I see. What do you mean? Who broke it off btw? She already has a bf now? Didn't try hard enough? How come you say so? (O.O)
ReplyI am taking my chances so that my feelings are conveyed straight to him without being misunderstood like before. ^_^
Don't you wanna give it a chance? Give yourself a chance? Awwee I see. What do you mean? Who broke it off btw? She already has a bf now? Didn't try hard enough? How come you say so? (O.O)
ReplyDamn this is spooky... for a second there I thought you were just someone who knows ME and is literally throwing my deepest darkest secret on NOVNI :)… our stories are so similar, it's scary... I'm from the opposite sex though... Listen, I ghosted my soulmate and the Love of my life for almost the same reason he ghosted you and I can totally relate to him... my situation is a bit more complicated though (I'm married-nope not happy and neither is my wife but you know... kids in between)… I tell you one thing, you got a good thing going with him, forget the Friendship BS if you have actual feelings for him and he for you... If you feel in your bones that this IS the right thing, go for it, don't waste time cos there are very very few things that rival the Pain of Regret, believe YOU ME.
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