What are you looking for?
Featured Topics
Select a topic to start reading.
My boyfriend is an angel. He does everything a boyfriend should do. Don't get me wrong, we disagree on a lot of things but we can always agree on the fact that we love each other absolutely. We've been together for four years.
He went off on a boy's weekend and suddenly I felt the need to assert my independence. I felt a little abandoned for some reason. I never stress when he goes out. My boyfriend and I hadn't had sex for two months. We're both college students and we hardly have time for that kind of thing. A few lonely hours and a whole box wine down, I decided to call an old flame. He's everything my boyfriend isn't, physically. He's everything I've always dreamt of physically. He's also a good friend of my boyfriend's.
I met the old flame at a restaurant parking area and I sat in his car. I downed half a bottle of Jager and then proceeded to make advances. The way he looked at me made me feel pretty. He's still a virgin, and not very forward. I put his hand on my breast and made him feel it. Before I left I thought it would be dramatic to try to kiss him. He put his head down and avoided my kiss, saying I was drunk. I was embarrassed and left.
When I got home I sent him two naked pictures of myself. I am disgusted with myself. He replied and said they were nice, but this can't happen. The next morning I regretted all of it. This is the first time something like this has happened. Am I a terrible person?
If you see a comment that is unsupportive or unfriendly, please report it using the flag button.
More Posts
-
13 years last month.
13 years together, last month. I’ve never been a jealous person, always let him hang with whomever he wants. Go When he wants, stay when he wants. We got mar...
-
It’s not ok
I have been divorced almost 3 years. My marriage ended because my ex- husband chose the other woman. That is why my marriage ended, but not why the relationsh...
Dudes a better friend to his friend then his girlfriend that's sad.
ReplyNo it isn't!
You should respect a friend and his girl!
ReplyAbt the friend, He is really a true friend of his best friend! If it would have been someone else ur situation wojld have been worser than this!
Abt u, i wouldnt say ur a terrible person! it was not right from ur part to do tht!
But yeah ppl do make mistake! Hope u realise tht this time u were lucky enough to not be in weirest position ever! But yeah i would say dont put urself in this place again!
Dont destroy wht u have,what others dont!
Hold ur relationship like a sacred , because bf like urs is rare to find! So hold him tight!
ReplyI didn't do anything !
Just replying !
ReplySo, I'm a guy. If I were your current boyfriend and I found out this happened, I would be upset...but I would not be mad to the point of wanting to break up. You didn't actually have sex, the worst you did was have him touch your breast. And I just gotta say from my horny guy point of view, that guy (your old flame) was a saint and a great friend to your boyfriend. I mean, would I have done the same, probably. But, still, having a woman throw herself at you, and being a virgin himself and likely super horny, all I can say is...saint. Just hearing that he showed that restraint reaffirms my faith in the male species. Anyway, all of that aside, it sounds like perhaps some work needs to happen with your relationship. I am not judging, just giving some advice. If you guys haven't had the time to have sex or display your affections in some way, it sounds like that needs to happen, and it needs to happen more than every two months. This is for your sake and his sake. I'm not sure if this speaks to perhaps a deeper problem with your relationship or if it really is that you are too busy. But, that might be something you want to think about. I'm not sure whether you will choose to tell him what happened or not, but if you do you need to be prepared for the possibility he might want to break up as he might have a different mindset than me. Now, I'm gonna play devils advocate and shift a bit of blame to him. I don't know how long you guys have been dating, but if you are so committed as to feel this badly about doing this, you must be pretty serious. So, if you are that serious, I'm wondering why he has't put a ring on it yet. Maybe this is something you have discussed and wanted to put off until after college or whatever, but if not, I'm just wondering why he hasn't yet. If you had been married, would this still have come to your mind? Possibly, I mean Ashley Madison doesn't exist for no reason. But, it might have been less likely to have happened. Also, knowing that you guys hadn't been intimate in two months or had much time to spend together, he still decided to go off with his buddies. That is a little telling to me as well. Now, I don't mean to bash a fellow bro, but he has a small amount of blame here too. So, my takeaways: It wasn't the worst possible thing that could happen, if you choose to tell be prepared for the possible fallout, he shares a tiny amount of blame, his friend is a saint, and you guys likely have some work to do on your relationship (and you both share the responsibility to make it work). I really hope you guys succeed and just make sure you don't beat yourself up over this. We all make mistakes, especially when drunk, and when lonely and horny. :-)
PS: I hope that friend of his finds someone amazing for himself as well. :-)
ReplyTell him. You are not a terrible person... tell him how you felt, though he may not understand it.
ReplyNo aren't a terrible person.....you know few hours or days without "him" can be very challenging and you might find youself doing crazy staff..... Well i wouldn't call what you did cheating compared to my situation am bad
Next time try to act like he is always with you and i promise you,you wont do such crazy thing ever
Reply