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First,I have to apologize for my bad English grammar cause it is not my main language but I have try my best.😁
So I have a childish parents and I always the one that help them pass on their words to each other.They always fight with each other even the smallest thing.Both of my father and mother never admit their wrongs.When one of them said it was his/her wrong they will start to scold and fight each other while throwing things and slaming the things that they can grab near them and as their good obedient children I have to help them pass their massage to each other but I always the one that suffer their scolding😕
Im so tired being their children and sometimes I even think why do I even born in this world just to suffer?What can I do to stop them from fighting with each other?What?Why?How?Several questions pop up in my head yet no one can amswer it.
My family not the rich but also not the poor just like the normal family that try to live their life to the fullest.Yet,here I am suffering from the questions...
Why can't both of you stop fighting and just be good with each other?
Sometimes I even want to commit suicide but after I think I still haven't finish done what I want to do and here I am still alive and lively.
Actually I like to spend my times with my friends more than my family.No need to hear them arguing No need to hear the slaming and throwing sound No need to suffer from their scolding...
Im so tired of this....
Did your family always fight with each other too? Its okay I know the feels....
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Yes, my parents fight both verbally and physically, and I am the one who passes along messages too, we both share this in depth. I know, I stay after school and try to avoid home, don't kill yourself because of them, just enjoy time with your friends like I do. My parents fought so much that they came to the point of throwing their phones at one another's head and fall, and planned to divorce, but then my parents noticed that I am getting mentally ill, and so now they don't fight in front of me. It's gonna be ok, Just keep letting them know, and spend time away from them if you feel like you are brought to tears.
ReplyI have been there..trust me ...and the biggest mistake to do is to get involved in their fights. I did that thinking that at least that way there wont be a zero communication zone but that's also one of the biggest regrets i have today. Sp keep in mind this "DO NOT PLAY THE ROLE OF A POSTMAN BETWEEN THE TWO".
Simply don't.
Just refuse. say you don't want to . Say you have homework. or if possible, the moment they start fighting, go out for a walk. (if its not late in the night)
Parents like these wont have any idea of how much trauma they're giving to the kids and the extent upto which its going to affect your future behavior.
For God's sake...take this seriously, and tell them that if they don't stop, you cannot stay with them. But do not get involved. I pray that things get better for you. take care.
ReplyYes, my parents fought all the time. They divorced and got back together years later. I am married now with kids and a wife . We fight over different things than my parents did but the outcome is the same.
We frequently misinterpret each other’s intention so we both tend to react poorly which sets the other off. She’s gets loud quickly, I usually don’t but that’s not the case 100% of the time. Reality is that after so much conflict it’s hard to empathize with the other person who hurt you...intentionally or not.
So yeah, I know it’s hard on the kids. We are trying, they are trying too. Fact of the matter is, you are now scarred no matter if you despise their behavior or not. I despised my parents behavior but I did nothing about it. I could have started reading and learning about psychology in order to help them.
I don’t know if we’ll work out or now after all is said and done but I can say, you are not alone, you are not as helpless as you feel right now.
Start reading. Be up front with them. You are their child but you are as human as they are and you need to learn about the psychological tools needed to get through it.
This is way more prevalent than you think it is. You probably feel like you have to hide all this from your friends. Don’t. You do need to be careful, som people won’t understand because in a lot of homes these issues are hidden from the kids but at least you can see it and aren’t blind to it. It’s more difficult when it’s all hidden because that hidden anger will cause them to escalate in their abusing each other.
If not checked, trust, it will escalate.
Good luck. Start journaling and keep journaling. Write back here often, even when it seems like things are fine.
❤️
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