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So I was dating a guy long distance for seven months. He told me he loved me and we'd discussed future plans together. Met a couple of times as well and things seemed fine, though for the last two months things have been slowing down. I found out he updated his tinder profile and things so I assumed he was just moving on.
He's going travelling for three months on Monday, and there's been radio silence for the last week. So I don't really expect to ever hear from again.
What I don't understand is that a month ago, from out of the blue he messaged me and told me that he loved me and wanted to see me before he went. He even offered his home to me to stay in while he was away travelling. He'd been drinking that night so I said to him to ask me again in the morning, if he still felt the same about it. He messaged me the next day asking when he could see me. And I started looking into flights.
He then ghosts me. For two weeks, ignoring all my messages, not speaking to me but still checking my snap stories and screenshotting my pictures and stuff....He updated his tinder again during this period and I took that as his answer to how he must of really felt about me. We still talk every now and then. But things are not the same between us.
I just can't understand why he'd say those things? Get me to look into flights and then disappear? I offered him a chance to back out if he didn't mean what he said so why treat me like that?? Can anyone offer any insight to what may have been going through his mind? Because I've got nothing
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Oh my god. That's terrible
And what's crazier is the same thing happened to meee!!
How are you feeling about it?
You can talk to me!
ReplyMaybe it's the same guy haha.
But honestly, I'm just confused and hurt by it. And I'm just let down at myself for sorta believing that it might have been true what he had said.
ReplySome other issue? Maybe family or friedns? Maybe he must be having a tough time...with peoole or work.
ReplyHaving issues and other things going on in your life is one thing. And that's something I can understand and back off and give a person space if they need it. But him Updating his tinder though? Idk.... it just confuses me, why tell me all those things to just go and do that.
ReplyI'm really sorry for you. Things will be fine:)
ReplyHe "liked" you but he wasn't that into you. You were an option. He was still searching. He said that but then probably got a date with someone else. I'm sorry.
I was in a relationship with someone similar to that except that it wasn't long distance. He made it clear after we broke up that he thought he would be settling if he stayed with me. He explicitly told me I wasn't what he was looking for. Later I realized he wasn't what I wanted either.
It happens. It's best to cut him out of your life so that he can't leave you on the back-burner. Enjoy being single while you get over him, or go on the apps yourself and start meeting new people.
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