What are you looking for?
Featured Topics
Select a topic to start reading.
Flag this Post
Its been a year now, I can't move on.
I don't know why. Idk what to do.
That person doesn't love me back.. But I really do like that guy a lot that its hurting me so much.
I hope you could give me some tips that could help me move on from him.
I'm in desperate need of help.
If you see a comment that is unsupportive or unfriendly, please report it using the flag button.
That sucks..Human love can only go so far..but Gods love is outside of our time. His love for you is eternal and unconditional...
ReplyI’m in the same position I honestly don’t know what to do. I can’t help you in this one but what everyone will say is try to distract yourself from that person and be around people that make you happy and take your mind off of him with happy vibes and family and stuff like that. I tried all that and he still is in my mind 🥺
ReplyIt's not love. This is an obsession and what I would call an infatuation.
You're going after someone who's probably unaware of your existence. If he doesn't love you back then you need to accept it. There's nothing more to it. If I were you, I would consider to be more preoccupied with my own life, than his. Stick to focusing on yourself and you'll see how uncecessary it is to have your thoughts consumed over some guy...
ReplyI actually understand you like reeeaaalllllllyyyy... I have once made someone part of my life. He was my priority and I always give him my time. But then one day he just left without a word. Nothing. I feel so sad and shattered deep inside. I deserve at least an explanation, right? But I've got none like I don't even deserve one. And that hurts me so bad. I've got pretty depressed and suicidal in the worse case.
But you know? I thought I was alone. A lot of times I felt like I am useless and that I should just die. I tried to commit suicide a couple of times too.
And then I stumble in this verse= 1 John 4:10
"And love consists in this: not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins."
Then I started to open up my mind and said to myself, "Yeah, you are not alone, Rose. You will not be born if you are not loved. You are born for a purpose to fulfill. You are born out of love from the greatest creator. This will be hard. This will be tough. But this might also mean that you are loved enough to be left alone for the best guy that deserves the love you can give."
Indeed the quote which I always read does make sense, "If someone leaves you, let them go. That is God's way of keeping you away from the person that He is setting aside for you. Someone who will love you the way you deserve to be loved."
You will love once again... who knows it will be with the same person but version 2.0 ;) You see? That guy that left me came back once again asking for forgiveness and I told him I've already forgiven him a long time ago. He kept on saying sorry and that he knows he doesn't deserve my forgiveness because what he did was really bad. I've told him that everyone deserves forgiveness, and I started to forgive myself for giving you too much of my time and love before. We are friends now and he still likes me he said, but I don't know. I just feel like in his current situation, he doesn't deserve the #me.version3.0.
It was a hard fight. It was a battle between my brain and my heart. I was exhausted mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually. But as the days went by, accepting the fact that he is gone, made me strong and stronger each and every day. I've come to realize that I can pick up myself with my faith that I am not alone and that there is someone from above that keeps on cheering on me. That I can be better and that one day, that guy that left me will ask for my forgiveness and I'll let him see how happy I am without him ( in which it happened just recently after 3 years lol).
You deserve better, dear. Far more better than to be taken for granted. You deserve a guy who also makes you his priority and loves like the way you do.
Don't lose hope. Don't give up. You will never know how far you will go and how strong you will be after this inner calamity.
Don't give up on love also. Someone out there is also craving for the love that you can give- hoping and praying to God to meet you soon (his dream girl).
My advice is to be the better version of you. Show your bf what he lost. Study hard/ work hard. Achieve the things you wanted to achieve like making more money and go to places and meet new people. Enhance your skills and your talents. Learn more! Your value depends on how you respect yourself. Show him you are better off without him (I know this is a hard thing to do... Easy said than done but you must!). Don't give him the benefit of the doubt that you can't be better without him.
Btw, when I started praying to God about helping me be the best version of myself, I've kept on dreaming early in the morning about a guy who has been waiting for me. And the hints are there. I guess I will be meeting him soon. <3
If you need someone to talk to, I am here to listen. Just message me. ^_^ God bless you.
ReplyYou will move on. It might not feel like it but you will. You’re stronger and more resilient than you think. I’ve been there. And I regret every minute of my life I spent crying over him and wishing things were different instead of enjoying that time I’m given on this planet. I really had to change the way I think about the situation for any of the practical advice I’m sure you’ve been given to work. What helped me on my worst days is remembering the simple truth - it’s not good for me if it’s not mutual, if it was meant to be it would be, if he cared he would show it and I don’t want someone who doesn’t care. Besides, we oftentimes mistake obsession, infatuation, addiction with love. I know I did. Love doesn’t hurt, it eases pain. I’m not trying to be cynical but sometimes we need that dose of reality. I only say that because I know the pain of unrequited geelings and I want to ease yours. I got so attached to that man that I instantly took him back after not hearing from him for 7 years. And this time when he let me go, I felt like someone ripped off a piece of my flesh. I know you are hurting. But the pain will ease up and then stop.. You will find the strength within yourself to move on. Letting go is a process, no deadlines here. At the end of the day/year/life all you truly have is you. You are your only resource. We often betray ourselves and lose ourselves in others. It’s a huge gamble. Put love, time, and effort in yourself instead. You’re precious and you deserve somebody who will recognize that. Life can change in an instant. Someone who will love you deeply might be waiting right around the corner. Focus on your future and the things to come. Take care of yourself.
Reply