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Most people think they know what polyamory is (if they know the word at all). It's a linguistic mess that means many loves (Greek & Latin mixed) but the mistake happens when it's confused with non-monogamy (meaning many sexual lovers). Poly can be sexual, or not. In a way we are all poly but we define different loves in different ways, thus a quick list because the Greeks had this pretty much nailed:
•Eros, or sexual passion
•Philia, or deep friendship
•Ludus, or playful love
•Agape, or love for everyone
•Pragma, or longstanding love
•Philautia, or love of the self
Sure there are a few missing, parents love of a child, child love to a parent and a plethora of interfamilial relationships we all call love. We use one word to describe a multitude of emotions and connections to other people.
I have a wife of 12 years (+3 children) and 2 other loves (female) that have their own homes. My wife has a couple as lovers (she is what is called a unicorn) and dates fairly regularly (nonsexual) looking for a 'spark' with someone.
If poly teaches anything it's communication and epic time management skills. Between sleepovers, dates, home life, work and other commitments, we (as a polycule) literally juggle 6 adult schedules (+4 minor children in total) and because it's more involved than 'just friends' a ripple affects everyone.. and there are many ripples because our people have other people and so the total effect is rather volatile.
So that's it for today, ask if you have a question. I'll try to answer.
Updates as I think of them.
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ReplyComplicated. Do the loves conflict? You can love someone and not be 'in love' with them. Examine your loves and be honest with these people.. you could lose both (or win both) but you'd have been honest to them and yourself.
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