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My parents have not yet divorced after 2 years of separation. My mom has sent a letter to my dad that he’d have to sign to proceed in this divorce, but he has not signed it according to my moms dismay. She doesn’t want to pay for solicitors or any more to file for the divorce. It’s not good for her wallet.
The day my mom told me he had sent my dad a letter and he had argued with her (which she had told me) he invited invited me out on next weekend to talk with me. He’s never had to “talk” with me like this ever, as he’s never spoken to me about things relating or going on with the family (such as the divorce procedures) unlike my mom who does keep me up to date.
I don’t trust my dad too much, especially with how weird he acts. I’m not sure what would happen next weekend. He even told me not to tell mom that he was calling me out to just speak with me.
I’m not sure if I should tell my mom or not, because my mom would tell my dad about why he’s doing this and he would be disappointed in me.. or I don’t want to upset him with him thinking that I don’t trust him or I don’t want to be with him. He’s my dad and all.. he’s just got some bad parts.
So.. I’m not sure what to do in this situation. He doesn’t want to tell me what hes going to talk about.
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anyways.. would you guys think this is suspicious?
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You can't do anything about your parents, as nobody changes. What you can do is protect yourself.
My mad mother and father are responsible for destroying me life. If my and sister and had been able to live away from them, we would have been "alive" today.
Now, after 10 years of suffering, I have moved and living with my grandparents. If you can do the same, you may find peace.
ReplyMaybe tell your father why you think this is weird. After all said and done, they are your parents. They want the best for you (most likely), but the choice is always yours.
ReplyTell mom. Your parents need to communicate to each other not through you. Basically dad needs to act like an adult and do what needs doing. That trust thing.. trust is earned not something you give 'because'. Go with your gut.
I have a step daughter and her dad is manipulative, the poor thing is emotionally blackmailed into many decisions she doesn't like. He sees her as a belonging when convenient and a burden when she disrupts his plans.
ReplyMy dad, being the youngest of his siblings, and the most insecure as he had spent less time with his own parents, was hit the hardest.
It feels weird, because this dad of mine was the same dad that had cried to me over the phone about wanting to commit suicide (right after my mom had decided to take us away to live in a different house, he had come home expecting to see his children but instead it was an empty house). It sounded surreal, coming from an adult like him who I thought would’ve been more collected.
No less, I feel sympathetic towards him. When this divorce signs through, my mother would take the house he’s living in and he wouldn’t have any other place to go...
he had given up his job when he was severely depressed and was talking about suicide (when we were taken from my mom who didn’t listen to his pleas). A job he had held for 18 years, and gave constant income. He’s jobless, family-less, and soon to be homeless. His parents have already died, and his siblings aren’t the supportive type.
Taking all this in, it hurts me to think if I should really tell my mom what’s happening. I don’t want to betray him, being his daughter and the only family he would think wouldn’t ever betray or leave him.
My mom isn’t particularly in the wrong, she had told me that she was abused when being with my father, and often tells me that I need to be careful before I’m emotionally manipulated.
My dads situation is very real however, it’s as much as understandable.
But it’s also understandable to realise that my father could be manipulating me. It seems that my heart doesn’t want to believe that though..
Still.. it’s conflicting. I heard that as being a teenager who has yet to hit puberty, to be in the atmosphere when MY DAD doesn’t want to live anymore..
it’s bad. Typically. For me however, suicide seems like it’s a waste to do, and it is, but from someone as lazy/dull as me considering suicide is like trying to read a blank book. No point. I don’t care too much, it’s been a bad day not a bad life.
Anyways.. I.. am just confused.
My parents can’t communicate because my mom blocked my dad, and they live in separate houses. My mom does not open the door to my dad. (My dad wasn’t even told where we were living, he somehow found out).
I am sort of their only source to get messages to each other. I think they both may be childish for that reason, my mother who dragged a year to give a divorce procedure, and my dad who had acted childish to lead to my mom wanting a divorce.
I guess I’ve written a lot now and complicated it but.. everything I said has happened. And I’m still confused. It’s not sometimes my dad who I get this “gut” feeling with. My mother isn’t particularly a pure saint either, according to what I’ve seen and gotten “gut feelings” about.
Replyif you are worried or uncomfortable it may be best to tell your mum especially if it's playing on your mind. it may be that you don't want to let your Dad down but at the end of the day he should be understanding, perhaps you could tell your Dad you feel uncomfortable your mum does not know or ask what it is about before see what he answers to that. If it is still weird maybe you should let your mum know. Hope it works out
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