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Toxicity can do a number on you. One toxic person or relationship can simmer and dim your light in a blink of an eye.
i have encountered toxic relationships one after the other and the most important thing i have learned is that you cannot
change someone or their behaviors. You may wish and dream, but that gets you no where. It gets you no where important and
it will not magically make the outcome any different. Actions. I know thats not a valid sentence, but the word ACTION is the
single most important word when evaluating someone. Words can go on and on without any meanings or feelings and can spew from
someones mouth just as this run on sentence. Actions, they are the truth behind anyones deepest self. A toxic person may try to
make you believe in their words which is why their actions are what to look out for. In my current relationship, his
words and actions are running fast paced in opposite directions. You can clearly tell the love and respect is long gone if it
appears to be no matter how many times "I LOVE YOU" is said. We paint an image in our minds on how we believe our relationships
should be. That to me is by far the biggest flaw in humans. Let me explain. You meet someone, you like them a lot and could
see yourself with this person. Maybe the first few months are great, then you see a sudden change in someone maybe even scary.
If this person makes you feel afraid or hurt with their actions, and are constantly apologizing trying to make things okay AGAIN,
you probably look back to the beginning. In the beginning things were perfect, he/she was amazing funny sweet etc... It must be a
mistake because they are not this person. That is when excuses for bad behavior come to play! Anything to reason with why your
person is acting different. When in reality, you are creating this imaginary picture that they must be something greater than they
are portaying. A person who wants to be good would be that effortless. In order for it to be worth it the good MUST outweigh the bad.
An example being a job. You know you have a good job when the pay is greater than your expenses. If you can not afford your bills, in
many cases you may consider a new job. That very concept applies to almost anything in life. My opinion, not that it means much,
is to make yourself happy. Put your self on top of the totem pole. When in toxic relationships after so long of being unhappy
we lose ourselves along the way. The excuses become the new norm. The new norm becomes a way of life. It is when we focus on ourselves
that we wake up and realize.
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Great read. Thank you for sharing.
ReplyAmazing! Kinda enlighten me! Thank you
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