Dear In-Laws,

I will have a zero tolerance policy for anything having to do with drugs around my children. I cannot allow people who have been addicts their entire adult lives to have a presence in my children's lives. You have hurt my husband and my sisters-in-law more than you know and on countless times for their entire lives. Until you can show that you are actively and passionately trying to better yourself, you will be a stranger to my family. There are some who say that I don't have the right to keep my children away from their family. However, I am the parent and I have the authority to decide who my child meets or if they are in a dangerous situation. Once they are old enough to know what is right from wrong and they are confident in themselves enough, I will have a deeper discussion with my immediate family and the ones who are positively invested in their lives. Actions speak louder than words to me, and I will need solid evidence of a positive progression in order to even begin the conversation. I don't believe any of you will bring a positive light into their lives because your past proves that. I 100% feel that I would be doing a disservice to my children by letting you all have any type of relationship with them as of now. I wouldn't trust any of you to not have drugs on your person, show up to my home late at night, breaking my children's heart, etc. I doubt that you all would disagree that if a situation or a person makes parents feel uncomfortable that their children should be brought to that place. I don't give out second chances lightly. I don't mind if you think I am a bitch or I am a horrible mother, make a Facebook post about me, call your legislator. Do whatever motivates you to get clean and get professional help because that is all I have ever wanted. I have known you all for a long time and while you may not think I know much about you, I have seen you all in vulnerable states and have the ability to confirm legal accusations, so please don't try to treat me like I don't know what I am talking about. I will raise this family in a healthy and safe environment, and I know you all know that because you have also known me for a long time. I have always been responsible and thought logically about every situation in my life. I don't want to be "mean" but I sure as hell will be strict. You cannot manipulate me like you have others. I have an amazing support system and am confident in myself now to be able to tell others no. Since I have known you, my feelings have never changed; I want the best for you all as individuals. I want you all to get professional help actively even if it means you don't stop trying until the day you die. I realize that money can take part in this journey and to that, I say research your best option. Simply do what we all have wanted you to do, get clean, get healthy, better yourself. You will not hurt my children or put them in dangerous situations like you unfourchantly did with yours. Get clean. See a therapist. Show me you are TRYING.

-The New Queen on the Block