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Every time I've ever liked someone, I just immediately want to cry because I know that I can't have them. This is from the constant experience of sucking it up and putting myself forward to talk to them. When I tell myself not to think so negatively and just try my best to get to know em, it still ends horribly. I feel like I will never find someone to love in this way. I'm already 21 and have only been in one relationship which was a long time ago.
I miss touch, I want kisses, I want hugs, I want YOU! I'm currently trying to talk to my new crush and get to know them, but it's hard because we don't sit near each other in my class most of the time. I just wish I could be closer, but WHY DOES THIS FEELING OF "LOSS" ALWAYS MAKE ME WANT TO CRY?!! Why do I always feel like I have missed or am missing something?... if clearly I'm not (since I don't even have anyone yet).. Why do I always feel sad and want to cry?? 0.o lol seriously though, can someone please help? or help me to feel better in any way?
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First, don't try to suck up your feelings! There's nothing wrong with expressing your feelings :)
Second, Whenever you get a new crush, Don't think of negative thoughts like "You can't have them" or "they would never like me" Instead face your feelings head on and think thoughts like "I'll get close to them!".
Third, About your new crush..Ask them to a hang out! you don't have to say "Go on a date with me" you can just ask him to hang out with you or you can hang out with his friends and him. Get to know them better like this! You won't get to know them without even doing anything, so you gotta make the first move! Be determined to get to know them, if you get a chance to be with them then go for it!
ReplyI went through the same thing in my early twenties. If you read my story maybe it will save you some heartache , time, and give you the solution. At 21 I really wanted a boyfriend to make me feel beautiful, loved , to touch me , encourage me. I accepted whatever guy would come along and paid any attention to me because I was hoping that those people would help me to feel all those things I had wanted. I thought a relationship is what I needed for my life to finally be happy and good. But usually those ppl didn't actually care about me and just broke my heart. That left me feeling even emptier and rejected I felt the opposite happened of what I had hoped for and I felt worse.I was so confused because I truly believe once I had a boyfiend my life better, fuller, happier but it didnt. I finally learned that I had to fully love and validate myself and realize I am enough even alone. Instead of waiting for someone else to love me I had to tell myself I'm doing awesome and start doing good things for me (exercising, eating healthy, inviting friends to hangout ,doing things I loved). When I finally was nice enough to myself and was putting good energy and time into doing things that would better myself that's when I decided I no longer need a relationship to feel whole. Shortly after i started living like that, that's when a good guy finally came into my life. As soon as I felt I was gonna be okay being alone and was appreciating/accepting life the way it was that's when the right person was magnetized to me . I became a more confident version of myself first and that is what finally attracted the right person into my life.
ReplyThat's beautiful.. and I thank you and appreciate your efforts so very much, I really do (: but perhaps for me it's just the constant heartbreak that's f*cking me up, cuz this super similar story happened to me: I was 15 when I did it all, drugs, sex, alcohol, cutting, hurting, attempted suicide, it was awful. Then something somehow changed and I took care of myself. I got better <3 self-loved and forgot about the "loneliness". I truly turned to the light and far away from the depression, then I found MY one... until they were too shy to ever take it to the next level. They're gone from my life now, and we've missed our chance. And although it's taken me literally YEARS to move on from that, I've fallen for someone new and still feel weird like this.
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