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The Beauty of Losing
5 years ago · 0
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Losing is tough, it is something we mostly do not talk about and when we do it is very negative. I am not saying we should jump up in down when we lose but I think the obsession with winning causes us to feel that losing is not even an option. That losing is the end and there is no going back from there. Winning is amazing, it gives you that warm feeling and a sense of accomplishment. That is great and should motivate people however it should not cause people to feel that winning is the only option. Losing I will never say is amazing, it can be soul crushing. However, it can lead to something even more amazing than what was originally sought out.
I first experienced this my Junior year of college when I ran for president. I pulled out the best campaign one that everyone related to and drew in a lot of support. I was obsessed with winning that I was having nightmares about losing. I could not sleep for a week and dedicated every minute I could to campaigning. Countless hours asking for votes, talking to people and putting myself out there. I can still remember opening my phone on a Friday to not see my name listed as the president. Realizing that everything I did was not enough to get me to win. I realized that the past year of preparation was not enough and that I would not be the president. I immediately broke and cried harder than anyone probably has ever cried before. I fled the school because I could not even think of looking into anyone’s eyes that I had just begged for votes from. I hated the feeling of loss I wanted to just wake up from this nightmare that I had been having all week that was now a reality.
Then something happened, I looked at my phone after finally pulling myself together to over 50 texts from people reaching out and telling me how amazing my campaign was. I even had a call from the President of the University who wanted to meet with me in person. I realized that even though I did not get the votes from the most people I had earned so many people’s respect. People liked what I was saying and doing and I sparked something that was so much more than just a position. The support kept coming in and even being at my house I felt so close to people. I realized there was nothing to be ashamed of and that I was going to be okay.
Losing helped me grow, I proved to myself that I am strong and can pick myself up and keep going even after the hardest blow. I knew people were looking to me and I will not say it was easy but I knew that the best thing I could do for myself and for the people around me is to swallow my pride and design my own comeback. I know that if I had won I would’ve been so happy and I would’ve been an amazing president. Losing helped me realize that I needed to grow and needed to look beyond college and positions. That I needed to be a better person someone who helps people feel empowered to lead and make a change. That I was there figure to show how to lose gracefully and that even in the face of losing you can come out stronger and powerful.
The pain of losing initially can be very overwhelming and it is something we do not talk about a lot. We show it at games like the National Title game for college the camera always goes to the losers crying. They show these kids right when losing hits and that is just the beginning. They never show the losers back in the gym using that loss to grow to go win something else. Losing is important, it leads to growth, to strength and to a brighter opportunity. Never be afraid to lose because you will surprise yourself at how strong you are. Pick yourself back up, lose again until you WIN because when you do win big you will see the worth in losing.
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