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I've had a crush on this guy in my class for a few months now. I used to have a crush on him a few years back, then got over him and now I like him again. I'm pretty sure he likes me back, that was kind of the reason why I fell for him again. He's lovely. He's respectful, funny, kind and overall just a good guy. But I don't support his actions. He goes to parties and drinks alcohol, his friends smoke and get in trouble a lot, he's under aged (so are his friends and I). I don't really care about the drinking or partying that much, I have friends that drink responsibly at home.
What you have to understand is that I'm not like him. I don't drink, party etc. In fact, I hate it. I don't like partying at all and I think alcohol tastes bad and I'm gonna stay that way. I'm lonely and quiet.
I'm scared that if I and him were to become something, it wouldn't work. He's not the same guy I liked a few years back. He's popular now. We're too different. I feel guilty talking to him, making him feel like i like him because deep down I'm questioning if he'll actually be good for me. He's not the guy I thought I would like, he was that guy 2 years ago when I liked him the first time.
I'm not sure if he's good for me. He's changed so much and I don't know if I like the new him. He's good at school and respectful. But then there's this other side of him that I never knew. I've always said my whole life that I don't like things that are similar to the things he does. Can I go against my own "rules"?
He surrounds himself with people I don't like, people who go against my ethics. Can I really be together with someone who does these kinds of things?
I'm lost, I don't know what to do, I don't know what i believe anymore. He twists my head and I'm beginning to start to question myself. Am I too harsh? Should I loosen up and be a bit more liberal? Or should I start drinking like all of the other teenagers at my school? It feels like I'm missing out. Like I'm left out of the group.
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I won’t stop you from trying if that’s what you really want to do, you can decide to not like something after you try it too and questioning your beliefs once in a while can be good because either you have changed and those beliefs no longer apply to the person you are, or the beliefs come out stronger than before.
But don’t change yourself to fit someone else’s ideals. You should talk to him. You don’t have to jump into a relationship right off the bat. Get to know him and see who he really is. In my experience people never turn out to be who I thought they were when I first met them.
You might find that maybe he wants to leave all that stuff behind. You might find you don’t like the person he is now and decide to stay away. Or you might find something completely different. But you won’t know until you talk to him.
If you aren’t comfortable with something you really don’t have to do it. No matter what everyone else says or does.
Hope this helps.
ReplyIf you like him tell him, if he likes you back then good! You might end up together, and again you won't lose anything from telling him. If he doesn't like you back then it's his loss. But you should never let a man change your view, if you feel that happening and you notice yourself giving into all cool stuff to be accepted, maybe he was the wrong guy all along. Plus you guys are still teenagers, it's when popularity is the most important thing so don't expect too much. Make sure you love yourself 100% to be loved the exact the same amount in return!
I hope it helps,
Millie
xoxo
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