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there's something that bothers me a lot and I dont know how to describe it. I get a feeling that something wrong is going to happen and then nothing happens, I be nice and get nothing nice in return, I be a friend and get an enemy in return. There's just something around me that makes everyone hate me. It's so confusing and I'm really fed up of being nice and getting nothing back. Do I deserve this? Everyone acts fake with me and is something else behind my back. Why? Please, I need as much advice from as many people. I don't know what to do and where my life is going. Is it me? Or their mentality?
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I doubt you're getting advice from many dear. This is a complicated matter. Still, good luck :)
ReplyThe thing I would consider is why are you expecting anything back? Friendships and relationships are not this-for-that, they are often organic and messy and never have numbers associated with them. Just because you give more than you get doesn't mean you deserve something back, it just means the relationship is unbalanced at the moment.
Because you have these expectations, you are driving yourself to the brink due to this unwritten contract. Because you have this unwritten contract, you can come off to people as false, which turns them into an enemy.
Consider why you are their friend and really ask if that is right. If they did the same thing to you, would you accept their friendship?
ReplyThey deserve something back at least
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