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Some will never be happy for you and want the best for you (edited)
4 years ago · 3 · toxic people, +4
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It's obvious when some people wouldn't want the best for you in relationships, success, life and happiness. It does come from a place of hurt, envy, insecurity and bitterness. There's others who will take it too far and intentionally take things away from others to benefit themselves. This is where it's being extremely selfish and hurtful.
Meanwhile, you're often the one who encourages others and gladly help if it was wanted. You're not bitter towards those you're surrounded by doing well in their love life, goals, success, happiness and life in general. You remain happy for those and wishing those you care about the best in everything. The reason for that is because deep down you know how it feels to be stuck in a bad place and you wouldn't want someone else to be in the same position. You're happy when those around you are happy too because it feels good. People have different goals in life and we shouldn't compare what each person has and don't.
I certainly don't. I have different goals and wants.
I always take joy in the little things that are much more in depth and meaningful. When I see people hating on each other, I see it as a waste of time and energy. I never really hated, envied those for things that are achievable in my own life and this is why I don't feel inferior.
I do have a different way of seeing it and naturally I would never want to be exaggeratingly competitive with others. A healthy form of being challenged by others is fine but I often find some going to far with it and it just gets nasty.
I really don't see the point when others are living their life and not hurting anyone on purpose. Who aren't stepping on others in the process in getting to where they want. I guess that's me and what I believe in overall. I think people should be there for each other and help each other, not be against for selfish reasons.
Does it ever suck when people wish you the worst and make you feel as though you don't deserve to be in a better place. How it would make you feel that you deserve less than have a modestly healthy life in every aspect.
It can be hard to find people who have good intentions towards you without them feeling inferior towards.
I'm many ways it can come across as unfair when you just want to live your life in peace.
That's all to say about it.
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ReplyIf others do well then that is great, but only if they did it in the right ways. You can do well without having to hurt others in the process, however I keep running into those types. It is hard when others purposely make you look bad when you only uplift... usually it is the person who tries to make others look bad that win. I cannot be that person though, even when others tell me I should. I have to be true to myself and that is all that counts.
ReplyYou're right, but who's anyone to determine what is the right and wrong way of doing things?
I have had experience where people have had made me look bad countless times on purpose without the intentions of helping me.
I don't think its about winning if that's really what you're after.
Overall, it doesn't help anyone to put someone down deliberately and make them look bad. It's immature.
To be more specific, what have you done to uplift others?
What would justify having to make others look bad anyways? What would be the purpose that you're after if you went through with it?
Why would people think that you should make someone else look bad, without having the intentions to uplift and help them the right way?
You should always be true to yourself and not be fake.
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