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So my best friend doesn’t consider me her best friend, at least I don’t think so.
When I’m clearly interested in something and go to talk to her about it, she will say things back like “dope” or “okay?” “Nice”. Which is something she only says when she’s not interested in talking to people or when she’s being “lazy”. Why would she be lazy if she cared?
I’ll text her, asking a question and she won’t respond. Then when I ask her why she didn’t respond, she will say “umm I’m too lazy to read” or “I’m too cool” now that kind of hurts my feelings but it’s probably some kind of coping mechanism but I don’t know why. She doesn’t put effort into talking with me unless it’s about something that she likes. She tends to hide behind her ADHD saying that “I’m not patient because I have ADHD” when really I also have it and yeah, it can be hard to talk to boring people because you can get distracted or just generally not care but it’s not impossible to be a little courteous. And it would be embarrassing to me if I didn’t have manners and at least pay attention to what people say. Is it really that hard to be genuinely interested in people? I think about it like this: everyone is smarter than you about something. So why not stick around to learn something?
Should I tell her that? At this point, I really don’t care if I lose the friendship. She’s never there for me even when I actually kind of needed her to be which really hurt. She doesn’t bother to pay attention to the things I personally like, and she’s obsessed with everyone so business but her own. Is there a way to fix this friendship? I don’t want to be the only one putting effort into the whole relationship. She only does when we talk about things we both like.
I probably left a few things out that I can’t rem at the moment but It’s been 3 years and nothing has changed except for how she has cared less and less about this friendship. What do I do?
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Friendship should be mutual and she doesn’t seem like a very good friend. I hope you can find someone to talk to who truly cares about you.
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