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How to get over your crush?
Ok.im a school-girl and i have a crush on my female friend
i know this is not right
but i cant help it
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There is literally nothing not right about a girl liking another girl romantically. Absolutely nothing. This is really important for you to understand. It's normal and it's the same as liking anyone else, regardless of what others have said. Liking women means you could be lesbian or you could be bisexual (like guys and girls). There's a lot more nuance, but this is the basics. Telling yourself that liking girls is wrong is only going to hurt you. You'll be trying to deny a part of yourself but it'll be there whether you want it to or not. So it's important that you make peace with it.
Now, I don't know where you live or if being openly attracted to women could be dangerous for you, but if it wouldn't be dangerous, then I'd suggest not hiding it. (By dangerous if there's a lot of homophobia in your area, if parents might hurt you, make you move out, convince you being LGTB is wrong, or if you could be extensively bullied and harassed and not really receive any help from police or school administration). If you have a close relationship with a parent and they'd be open, you should talk to them and try to get advice. There's a book called "This Book is Gay" by Juno Dawson. It's all about discovering and making peace with your identity. You should try to find it and check it out.
Anyways, if it's safe to do so, tell your friend you like her. Who knows, maybe she likes you back! Either way, at least you'll know whether or not. If it works, YAY! If she doesn't like you that way, then you can let her go. But I'd say at least try!
I'd say, if she doesn't like you, be sure to be nice to yourself. You might feel crappy, so do things to make yourself feel better. Go on a walk, take a bath, draw cool tattoos on yourself, listen to music, meditate, read, whatever it is that you like. Don't push your friend away, either. If she turns into a huge jerk, then maybe don't associate with her. But don't ignore her or stop being friends just because she doesn't want to date you. That'd be worse for everyone. If you're interested, try joining your school's GSA or similar club (there's usually some kind of club for LGTB kids). Learn more about your community.
Good luck!
ReplyIt’s okay to have a crush on someone of the same gender. I had a huge struggle with it when I first liked a girl too. Being LGBTQ+ is not uncommon, and your identity is widely accepted by our society. Even if your parents are homophobic (mine are... T-T) they can’t tell you how to live your life.
Don’t worry bro. And good luck!
ReplyEvery persons different and well if you know in your heart it isnt right then just try to let her go. If you dont you may regret it later but its up to you.
ReplyThere is nothing wrong with being lesbian/bi. And if she won't accept you, that's how you know you're associating yourself with the wrong people, because true friends stick by each other's side.
However, if you really want to get over it, I recommend taking a break. Keep your distance, and possibly consider other people.
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