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I met this guy and I really like him. But I'm so worried. I know money is not the most important thing but when I settle down I want to live a nice comfortable life. He didn't study further and I did. Having a career is one of the most important things in my life right now. I just feel that it might be a problem later on. :( Any advice?
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Depends on what you mean by comfortable. How much do you really need?
Replylisten up girl.. see even if you start being with the guy leaving your career later on life u will regret it. so better than regretting make your career and if he is in your destiny he will come.
ReplyThis is an interesting post and sits well with me.
If I'm understanding you correctly, you're saying that you're working hard to advance your career to, essentially, get a higher pay for preparation of living a comfortable life down the road. And, on the flip side, this guy hasn't followed the same path.
I would like to think that, 99.9% of the time, partners do not earn the same amount of money each year in salary but, in many cases, I suppose their earnings are about the same.
I'm happily married but was married once before. When we were young, I had started on a career path and my wife opted to take specialized classes for a specialized skill set that would get her a good paying job quickly. It paid off for her. The classes were only 3 to 6 months long and, as soon as she finished, she got a good paying job performing this skill. I was at the bottom of the ladder with my own career and making much, much less than her. She begged me to take these same classes but time and time again, I refused. I was doing something I enjoyed and, this thing she was into...not really my cup of tea.
In two years time, I had received annual raises and a promotion that put my salary neck and neck with hers. Two years after that, I was making more than her. Flash forward several years - I was making nearly double her salary.
I'm not sure what it is this guy does or what you think will come of him down the road but it could be entirely possible that he will advance in his career and do great things. In that, he may also be compensated financially well beyond what his current earnings are.
In the end, if you think you'll have an issue being the breadwinner, you may wish to let this guy go or just keep him around as a friend.
I earned double what my ex-wife made and nearly triple what my current wife makes and I'm ok with that. It would be nice, of course, if her salary was higher but we have enough to pay our bills on time, raise our children, and still have money left over to do fun stuff. That said, it doesn't bother me but, it could be something that would bother you.
You're probably the only one who could know such a thing. If you like him enough, I think money won't come into the picture.
Good Luck!
Bucko
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