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Olay its literally 12:30am but I need to write this down and tell my truth to someone because I feel like trash and need support. Basically the beginning of this month, swiped right on a girl from tinder and soon she asks me out. We try and meet but shes I'll the first time, then we try and meet again and she blanks me. Then blocks me from Facebook messaging her and yeah?!?! She stood me up then ghosted me like what?!??! She asked me out twice, tells me I'm perfect and that shes so excited to meet then blanks me? Sorry what? I feel awful cause it's my first proper date with a girl i was actually in to, plus I'd had to take like 3 trains to get to her in the first place. I ended up having to call my dad to pick me up before times she cancelled. Anywho, someone tell it's not my fault because I have this worrying feeling that she either saw me and ran or she was just playing an awful prank on me!?!
Anyways that's my confession and now I'm going to try and dream away these self deprecating thoughts. I deserve better right? Right? I'm worth more than being used for a game or a joke. My one and only ex literally used me as her rebound for 3days then boom bye bye me. Am I too gullible or do I attract bad people with my happiness and positivity. Is it cause I'm gay that lifes gotta be this hard when it comes to dating? I hope I'm worth more. Someone tell me I am? Cause i dont believe it right now. Anyone wanna join me for a late night cry and random ice cream party to lift my mood? Anyone? Just me I guess cause everyone else just leaves me. People leaving is my biggest fear yet it seems to happen so often I think I'm becoming numb to it. Thoughts on this or is that for another post? Who knows, I'm gonna sleep now.
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Honey, you are worth more than you know. I honestly think that you're a beautiful person, even if I don't know you. Don't for a second blame yourself. Whoever that person you were trying to meet is, they weren't real with you from the beginning, they were there to play with your feelings and after a while you should've understood that. PUT YOUR FEELINGS FIRST. I cant stress that enough. You matter more than anyone. YOUR feelings matter. Don't overthink the whole thing and don't expect much from these days cause they just disappoint. Go to sleep and just love yourself. Don't worry about who comes in or out of your life, the people who leave are meant to leave, they're either no good for you or they've taught you something valuable. BE HAPPY CAUSE as cliché as it sounds, life is too short to make majority of your days sad
ReplyThank you!!!!
ReplyWell, two thoughts to this...
First, my wife and I are swingers. We've gone out many times to meet adults, in a public place, to visit and get to know one another to see if we'd all agree to take things to the next level. For some reason, after constant contact even on the day of the meeting, we find that they don't always show. To be honest, we've never figured it out but assume that they get cold feet and, once it's close to time, they just back out and then are too embarrassed to give us the decency of a heads up. At any rate, you'll be dealing with "no call no shows" until you settle down.
Second, I could be wrong but it sounds like you're taking these dates extremely seriously. I can admit quite easily that this standing you up was very much the wrong thing to do. I'm not excusing her actions one bit, especially having done it to you twice. That was a huge waste of time and emotion on your part, I know. But know that when you start seeing someone regularly, it's still the early stages of a relationship where you're starting to get to know one another and, in that, you both decide over time if you like one another or not. If you both have fun on the first date, there could very well be a second but this doesn't mean you two are a steady couple or that this girl may not break it off with you.
It hurts to get dumped, sometimes more than others, but going in with the attitude of wanting to have fun as opposed to having the attitude that this person will be my forever should certainly help.
Good Luck!
Bucko
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